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What do I do?
I just found out that the brother of one of my good friends committed suicide last night. He has a three month old baby and a wife. I haven't actually talked to her yet, I just got the message and she's on the plane right now to his town.
I need to say something to her, but I don't feel like it's a great time to be calling her. I thought about sending her a text message, but is that too tacky? To send a condolence text? Should I email her? Ugh, I don't know what to do.
Re: What do I do?
just wait until she's off the plane, call her and offer your condolences - and tell her you are there for her.
Probably not much else you can say.
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This is what I would probably do. I am so sorry to hear about that I will keep them in my t&p.
Ashley & Josh ~ The Reef Resort ~ Grand Cayman~ May 15th 2010
I would do an e-mail over the text - and let her know that you are there for her whenever she is ready to talk. I don't know if I'd be ready for awhile if I was her.
Also - a card and some food sent to her place might be good too.
This. Also... if you're really nervous about talking to her - she is on a plane, so you could call her and leave a voicemail. That way you can say what you want, and I'm sure she would appreciate hearing your voice & kind words. Just saying... and then when she's ready I'm sure she will call you back.
This.
I don't deal with death/serious illness situations very well either and am always so nervous at times like these, but I always make myself call and talk to the person or if they don't answer leave a message. You have to remember that this isn't about you and your feelings of nervousness, but about her and how scared and sad she must be. Even if she doesn't answer and/or doesn't want to talk to you right now hearing your message/voice will be a great comfort to her. You'll be happy you called her in the end. T&Ps.
{Blog: Adventures of AlaskanAlison}
I'm so sorry Alison. Sometimes there just isn't anything to say. Just call her when she lands and let her know you're there for her.
His family is definitely in my prayers.
I'm so happy you called and I am so sorry again for your and their loss. HUGS to you!
I'm so sorry for your friends and her family, and for you too! It's so hard when things like this happen to good people. I saw this kinda late, so I see that you already called, which is what I was going to suggest.
I agree with the other PP's who said that if anything she'll be glad to hear from you and now she knows she can call when she's ready. Sometimes it's hard for the family to make the first move because they don't want to break the news. It might be easier for her to talk to you now that she knows you already understand the situation.
Lots of ((hugs)) and t&p to everyone.
That's me too... I usually end up saying nothing and then feel really shitty about it...