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Family Question
My parents come from really big families so I have tons of aunts and uncles and one of my dad's many sisters was married to my uncle since before I was born and just until recently when they got a divorce. This is one of only two divorces in the dozens of marriages in my family so I'm just wondering how you refer to people in this situation. He's been my uncle my whole life, so do I still refer to him like that? I tend to like him better than my aunt.
He's coming over tomorrow to tune my piano so I just thought I'd ask.
Re: Family Question
I would still call him my uncle.
I have lots of close family friends that we call uncles, aunts and cousins that actually are not.
A bit of a different situation, but I had an aunt die (my mom's sister) and we still call her husband uncle. He has since remarried, so we just call them uncle joe and mary.
So yes, I would still call him uncle, unless he asks you not to.
Yes I would still call him uncle if that is what you want to do.
I still call my uncle's ex-wife "aunt" but just refer to his newer wife by first name since I was so much older when they got married.
It is an awkward situation, and I have been through it before when I was younger. I think I was more confused about what to call him as a young teen, and I hesitated to call him uncle after they divorced. Now I think I would call him uncle if I saw him.
If I were you I would still refer to him as uncle.
The way my family looks at it: they've been there, they've acted like an uncle, they've been an uncle for all intents and purposes... they're your uncle. Their personal life and relationships have no bearing on their relationship to you.
I'd call him uncle, unless he asks you not to. To be honest, he'll probably feel better if you do, so he doesn't feel like he's divorcing the whole family who has been around for obviously a long time.
I guess it depends what you are comfortable with.
My uncle divorced his first wife when I was about 6. I rarely see her, as she lives about 4 hours away, but I still refer to her as aunt. Strangely, I am super close with my uncle's second wife (she is like a second mother to me!)
I would still call him my uncle....
Heck, here's a wierd one for you.... my grandparents had a widow friend that they spent lots of time with, she was practically part of the family. So, we called her 'aunt'. When my grandma passed away, my grandfather and her got closer and married (in their 70's/80's). Well, I'd spent my entire life calling her aunt, and now she was my grandma... I stuck with calling her aunt. Even after my grandpa past away she was still part of the family as our 'aunt'.