Now that you had YOUR wedding...

Kniblet · July 2010

...do you think you will be more critical of other weddings that you go to? You know, sitting there thinking, "I would NEVER have done that" or "that's exactly why I DIDN'T do that".

And go.

BrittBritt22 · July 2010

Yup, absolutely. Just left one last night where I did. Not saying anything outloud obviously but silently judging.

That said, they also had a really cute idea that I liked and told everyone at our table that was something I would have done for sure.

ETA: I don't mean judging silly things like flowers and decor. I totally judge things like making your guests wait an hour and half while you take pictures even though your invite said nothing about a cocktail hour a or a gap.

MiniMin20 · July 2010

Yes and no. I think I'll be more apt to notice things and think about how it's not the way I would have done it, or the way it should be done (i.e. registry info inside the invitation, etc.). But I think I'll also be a little more understanding of how much work and money are involved in planning and hopefully understand if some things don't go smoothly or perfectly.

We're going to our first wedding since getting married in a couple weeks. We'll see how things go...

kmuthig · July 2010

I think I'm actually a bit more understanding of stuff. I just realize how much work went into it and how hard it can be to have the wedding that you want because everyone throws their two cents in. I'm so excited for the next wedding I go to. I think my MOH will be planning a wedding very soon and I just cant wait for it to be someone else's turn.

kmt_cas · July 2010

Honestly? No. To each their own is my motto.

lca315girl · July 2010

I don't think I will, but I'll let you know for sure on August 8th.

MissySue20 · July 2010

No, since my wedding is over and there is no ideas I could use anyway. Now I understand all of the time & effort that goes into planning a wedding, I can't talk about how someone else does their wedding.

hippie4yahweh · July 2010

Not at all about decor or colors or whatever. ?

I am super critical about the stupid dances/ activities. Tosses, dollar dance, etc. More so than before b/c we didn't do them and it was a SUCCESS, and people specifically THANKED me for not doing that crap!?

Also very critical about providing for your guests. I tried damn hard. We had a bunch of vegetarians so 1/2 of the menu was vegetarian. We weren't allowed to serve liquor (in a city-owned building) so we served damn good beer.

If you're serving crappy drinks and crappy food and have a million ppl there, now I really know that it's just because you're a gift grabby hoar who wouldn't cut the guestlist and ensure that you could take care of your guests well.?If your wedding's during the hottest month of the year maybe have a venue with AC??? Etc.

(can you tell how tempted I was to grab my card, baskets AND card box from that last wedding and peace the eff out of there? I don't know how I can be friends with this chick again, seeing how bad her behavior was and knowing what was really going on. ::BARF::)?

sw_wedding · July 2010

I think I definitely will, but I will also be more understanding as well since I now know how stressful something can be,

ms nobody · July 2010

i think weddings have lost their mystery- when i attend weddings i see all of the WORK that was done, and needs to be done that day. i feel like i've opened up a watch and now i can see all of the cogs and cant get it closed.

but the only wedding i've been to since was hippies- and i knew all of the work she had done and was doing, and i knew pretty much everything down to the first dance song lol.

i'm not normally one to talk sh!t about a wedding unless i dislike the person. i'll have general comments though like "they should've had a DOC to keep track of them, because 1.5 hours AFTER dinner was SUPPOSED to be served they're still out taking pics, and your guests are effed up!"

I think i'll definitely have "i'm so glad i did/hired xyz" moments, but never anything that's judgement on personal preference. whatever blows your hair back.

BellaSposa223 · July 2010

I'm not sure...J's cousin's wedding is in October and we the STD in the mail and I said to him "ours is better," but that may be just because I don't like J's cousin's FI.

Jaimie

JBs_Bride · July 2010

I think so. It wouldn't be about colors or superficial crap, more about stuff that hippie and nobs mentioned... like lack of DOC or tons of speshul dances or whatever. Weddings are a lot of work, but that's why you get help with putting it together.

Believe me, it's frustrating going to a wedding that's organized like crap because the bride didn't take your offer for your help. If I say "I can help with X" I actually mean it!!

DanielleLovesZach · July 2010

No. I completely understand that their wedding showcases their tastes and style. I may have different views on what they should have done and what they shouldn't have done, but I don't really dwell on it. I think I focus more on "Damn, I should have done that!" or "Why didn't we think of that?" That was my mindset last night with a few things at the wedding we went to.

amberpro · July 2010

Ha- I did that before I was sure at what I DIDN'T want at our wedding based on all of my previous experiences.

But like Hippie said, not so much on the colors/decor (although I abhor fake flowers and always will- real flowers or flower alternatives, people), but more so on how they treat the guests. Timing, food, drinks, overall feel. I'm critical of bad hosting.

Hwrd2be · July 2010

I already am. I saw pics of my cousins wedding ( got married the same day) and I was critiquing the whole thing. People said I was being too critical but its like I cant help it. I think now that I had mine not only do I know what people are going through but I know how I wouldnt be caught doing certain things.

Kniblet · July 2010

Yeah, I didn't mean decor. Or colors. I meant those couples that make you wait for dinner for 2 solid hours while they take pics.

I mean the people that don't provide enough food and drink. I mean the people that don't provide alcohol but expect people to still dance, though it's rare.

I mean the people that have a wedding outside in summer and allow you to get eaten alive by bugs. I mean the people that serve their guests pasta or cocktail weiners while they eat filet mignon.

Some of you got what I meant. Thanks. It was late when I posted and I was exhausted.

JBs_Bride · July 2010

Kniblet:
Yeah, I didn't mean decor. Or colors. I meant those couples that make you wait for dinner for 2 solid hours while they take pics.
I mean the people that don't provide enough food and drink. I mean the people that don't provide alcohol but expect people to still dance, though it's rare.
I mean the people that have a wedding outside in summer and allow you to get eaten alive by bugs. I mean the people that serve their guests pasta or cocktail weiners while they eat filet mignon.
Some of you got what I meant. Thanks. It was late when I posted and I was exhausted.

I would be critical about those even if I was single. lol I have been in some of those situations and it sucks.

ms nobody · July 2010

ditto jaybers. i'd be critical of those people all together no matter what. even the weddings that are beautiful and perfectly timed i'd sh!t talk if i hate the people. lol

brookev11 · July 2010

I was critical of weddings like this before our wedding, but now I am sure I will be even more so.

wifey2be2010 · July 2010

I already am....My sister was proposed to while we were on our HM and she is already trying t0o add stupid crap in there. Its her day so whatever but I think at other weddings I may be sort of the same way.

kmt_cas · July 2010

JBs_Bride:
Kniblet:
Yeah, I didn't mean decor. Or colors. I meant those couples that make you wait for dinner for 2 solid hours while they take pics.
I mean the people that don't provide enough food and drink. I mean the people that don't provide alcohol but expect people to still dance, though it's rare.
I mean the people that have a wedding outside in summer and allow you to get eaten alive by bugs. I mean the people that serve their guests pasta or cocktail weiners while they eat filet mignon.
Some of you got what I meant. Thanks. It was late when I posted and I was exhausted.

I would be critical about those even if I was single. lol I have been in some of those situations and it sucks.

Ditto. I didn't respond with this in mind since I would have been upset whether or not I had gone through the process. It is a given. It's called common courtesy that most people just don't have and something that H and I have to learn to get over. Some people just don't know what is polite and what isn't. Oh well. And yes, I definitely judge them.

KabFrr · July 2010

I think definitely silently judging...I understand everyone has their own style and tastes, and what works for one may not work for another. But as each bride thinks, your wedding day is the most perfect, most special, best day ever, so it's hard not to compare yours to others, whether it's "I wish I had done that," or "OMG, I'm glad I didn't do this!" And especially where we now know how much planning it takes to pull off a wedding...if I see a wedding with, say sloppily hand-written, I-was-drunko-when-I-wrote-these escort cards, and I spent half a day typing and printing mine...yeah, I might judge a little

andyandhillary · July 2010

I think my judgey-ness will remain the same as it was before I got married. I am more considerate, definitely, of the work and money involved. I never judge "low budget" weddings but I judge things that are poor etiquette.

burnsbaby · July 2010

Things like nobs, hippie and knibs said, yes I would judge those. Although I too judged them before. It's just plain rude. You should think about you and your FI on your wedding day, yes, but your guests should be comfortable and happy too! It's just manners.

twilight.rose · July 2010

Occasionally, yes...especially when it's something that's just completely rude. For example, we attended a wedding in the middle of nowhere (so no malls, restaurants, etc. nearby to occupy one's time) over the weekend where there was a 4 hour gap between the ceremony and reception. No one had been informed of this large gap, and the couple had not arranged any form of cocktail hour/activity for their 100+ guests. Furthermore, the reception hall was not even open until 3 hours into the 4 hour timeframe, so people were literally loitering in the parking lot for hours on end...it was dreadful.

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