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Need help finding balance between condoms and lubricants

My girlfriend just recently got off the birth control pill due to health reasons.  Before she got off the pill we would have sex without condoms. Now that she is off, we have been trying to make due with condoms but we always run into problems.

She gets irritated from the lube on the condoms and latex.

I get uncomfortable because the lube on the inside dries up and rubs.

Going back on the birth control pill is not an option.

 ANY suggestions would be realy helpful!  We are trying to find other alternatives or other brands of lubricants and find a good condom brand. 

Re: Need help finding balance between condoms and lubricants

  • One thing to try - and she has to totally be onboard with this - would be contraceptive sponges.

    It does contain nonoxynol 9, the spermicide that is used in condoms, but I find the usage of it in the sponge is much less irritating than on condom.

    My H can't tell the sponge is in unless the string is in spot that rubs against the head of his penis. (And, then we'll stop and I'll adjust it at that point.)

    One thing that is much nicer than condoms is the fact that you can insert it before sex, so it is more spontaneous. Getting it inserted and positioned correctly is no more difficult than using a tampon. (Obviously this is why I say that your GF has to be onboard with using this, b/c it's something that she is going to be taking responsibility for using.)

    http://www.amazon.com/Today-Sponge-Vaginal-Contraceptive-Sponges/dp/B000SJJFF4/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1278873656&sr=1-5

     

    Hope is not a strategy.
  • I had this problem and the Liquid Silk Lube completely solved it and definitely try the trojan intense ribbed condoms!
  • Another thing she would have to be on board for, but totally worth it - has she considered an IUD?  If hormonal BC is an issue, you can get a non-hormonal IUD.  It's semi-permanent and lasts for up to 10 years.  I got one put in b/c I don't trust the pill alone, and neither one of us do well with condoms. 
  • You can get latex free condoms. There are a few different kinds. Buy a good quality lube that doesn't dry out quickly.
  • I had a similar problem with BC and DH hates condoms with a passion(I'm not too fond of them either) so we found a product called Ortho Options Conceptrol. You can get it at any big store like Target or at places like Walgreens. We originally got it for our honeymoon and it was great. It takes a small bit of work, she will have to insert it before you have sex each time but it is no more difficult then putting a tampon in, the applicator is shaped and generally works the same.

    Definitely check it out. Not only will you solve the latex and lube problem but sex is so much nicer without condoms:)

  • Try Vaginal contraceptive Film .They are thin see through strips that are inserted into the vagina about 20 minutes before intercourse. They completely dissolve. You can find them at most drug stores. I used this for years with no problems. http://www.vcf-contraceptive.com/sample.asp
  • @ Katie, you might want to try this too. It's very similar to the product you use except it's less,how should I pit this, liquidly after. The box is something like $7-8. Quick tip, be in ready position to insert when you open the product, fold it fast and quickly insert and pull out your finger. As soon as you touch it, it begins to dissolve.
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