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slight vent...
So I'm helping my friend plan her wedding and although I'm not a bridesmaid, I'm her "Matron of Ceremonies" and more involved in the planning then her BM's... Anyway I offered to help her MOH w/ the shower and bach party, she lives out of state and the other BM's aren't much help, so I knew that if I didn't step in there it may not even happen... Anyway I've been trying to get in touch w/ the MOH for the past month w/out much luck, just a few emails back and forth and promises that she will call me... WELL the shower is set for August 14 (that's a month away!) and the MOH emails me today with basically NO plans... just a few "ideas"! OMG seriously... invites should have been mailed already and she has no clue what she's doing!!! She seems to be more concerned w/ where we'll go for the bach-party (which is the easy part!) and has no idea even where to have the shower... She just wrote "My struggle is with how and where to do the ?shower? portion. With a good chunk of people coming from out of town, I will have to book some type of lodging. So, originally, I was thinking about doing something large enough to accommodate everyone (condo?) and we could do the shower part there. (I was thinking simple: appetizers, cocktails, gifts). But I?m having a hard time figuring out logistically if that would work."
So it's a month away and this is where you're at in the planning process?!?! WTF...
Anyway I offered to host the shower at my house... think I'll regret putting myself in that position??? 
Re: slight vent...
First off, you're being a really good friend for helping & offering your place to host the shower.
Secondly, at this point... your house sounds like the best option. I totally understand why you're hesitant about it, but a month out?! During Summer?! During wedding & baby shower season... and that's where she's at with her planning? Oh, Good Lord. lol. You guys could do a really nice shower at your house. You could focus on finger foods, small bites, hor d'oeuvres, fun cocktails, etc. That actually sounds pretty fun to me... a little more casual, somewhere people can have fun & socialize together in a relaxed setting. Or, if you want it to be more formal, then make it formal! Actually that's the beauty of having it at your house - you can decide exactly how you want everything to be! The venue/restaurant no longer dictates how formal or informal the shower is.
Good luck! I'm thinking you may have to take the reigns with this one, the MOH doesn't sound interested.
btw, WTF is she thinking? Are showers supposed to be a big huge sleepover?
K+S 9.18.9 | DD #1 age 2 | PG # 5 EDD 9.17.12
Thanks ladies! Still no response from MOH on my offer... I refuse to half-ass this if it's at my house, so if it's going to be then I need to get my butt in gear ASAP! The sad part is the MOH is the brides future SIL and she was her MOH last fall and threw her a wonderful weekend of shower and bach-party and even surprised her with a brides massage the morning of the shower... and this is the enthusiasm she reciprocates?!?! Of course I don't want to tell my friend what's going on bc I don't want her in the middle or feeling the stress but I'm just really annoyed with her MOH!
If I do end up hosting this I'll be coming to you ladies for lots of advice and support!