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embarrassing sex quest.
Hi, This is kind of an embarrassing question, I just wanted some feedback, before I speak to my doctor. Basically, I have been married for 9 months, and after our 2nd month of marriage, we had and are still having issues - we have cut down on sex, because I am not turned that much. Long story short -
We probabaly have sex once or twice a month, sad I know. When H and I do have sex, it doesn't last long, because he comes so fast, which is understandable not having it all the time- I think, But when we are done, I start to get frequent urine sensation (assuming it is UTD) this has happen twice after I have sex with him, So I dont know if he is doing something or is because it been a long time. He also stated his stuff hurts him after he does it.. I am confused as to why this is happening. I do not have any BV nor am I under Birth controls - plus, they say he could be hitting my pelvic.. but when we were dating and have sex more - I never experience this, now that we are married it is happening.
We probabaly have sex once or twice a month, sad I know. When H and I do have sex, it doesn't last long, because he comes so fast, which is understandable not having it all the time- I think, But when we are done, I start to get frequent urine sensation (assuming it is UTD) this has happen twice after I have sex with him, So I dont know if he is doing something or is because it been a long time. He also stated his stuff hurts him after he does it.. I am confused as to why this is happening. I do not have any BV nor am I under Birth controls - plus, they say he could be hitting my pelvic.. but when we were dating and have sex more - I never experience this, now that we are married it is happening.
Confusing!!
any feedbacks would be helpful.
any feedbacks would be helpful.
Re: embarrassing sex quest.
-how's the foreplay? Is he playing with you much beforehand, are you with him, are you building up to the sex so that you can get turned on more before he actually penetrates? This might help the 'he cums to quickly problem" and I agree too if you're only having it once a month and he's not masturbating much he might get excited faster.
-The urine sensation after sex. If you go pee right after does it go away? you should be peeing after sex anyways so if this is the case I don't see a problem with it. Unless it's uncontrollable and stays even after you urinate?
-This is probably stupid but whats does 'UTD' stand for? I've never seen that written here before...
-His Penis hurts after sex? Are you using enough lube? It could be rubbing to hard on him. Does this only happen if you do certain positions? Is it new, did it hurt after sex when you were dating?
I think she might've meant UTI. At least, that's what makes sense to me.
I had the same situation briefly with my BF--the having a weird, UTI-ish situation after sex, that is--my doctor told me it was probably due to having a new partner and my body adapting to a new shape/angle of penis. Given that the penis before him had been the only one for 5 years, I wrote it off to that.
If he isn't a new lover, though, I'm not sure. Have you been having especially rough sex the times that this has happened? Have you gone off of BC or switched? What has been different these last few times, compared to the symptom-free sex you were having before?
Glad to hear you have an upcoming doc's visit. Your doctor can get a much more in-depth look than we can.
How odd, I swear me and the hubby had this same issue a few months before we got married...........thankfully it went away on its own and before the wedding...err HONEYMOON, haha! I talked to my doctor about it and she said I "hadn't gained my springability yet" uhhh WHAT? Haha, we'd been having sex for several years and all of a sudden it hurts? Clearly that wasn't the problem. She did a culture and urine test and everything came back okay - no infection of any kind, I still never figured out what was going on. I started taking AZO Cranberry Pills, which is supposed to help your urinary tract. I saw AZO Yeast pills too but didn't have any of the signs of a yeast infection, if you do you may want to check those out. I looked AZO up online, seems to be a good line of products. I didn't see AZO Standard in the store but read about it online and that one seemed to fit better.
http://www.azoproducts.com/products
Hey gals, to try to answer- we do not do foreplay, and its usually the missionary style plus, it doesn' t last long, (2min) sad to say.. so yes, i do pee after the sex, but there after, it has that sensation - which only happens when we do have intercourse. I have tried that AZO and it has helped.
it is just weird that when we were dating and have frequent sex, I never had these symptoms - after our honeymoon, it was when all of these symptoms happen. But I have schedule a doctor appt for this week. so hope its not that serious.
thanks for your inputs much appreciated.
Why on earth are you not doing any foreplay?
Do you use lube?
Have you thought about switching up the positions, try something else and see if there's a different response/effect.
Not turned on that much? Willing to bet you have never masturbated.
I suggest that you start immediately. Do so by yourself -- and then show him what feels good.
He is probably also very inexperienced. You guys need to proceed slowly and have foreplay -- does he think you're a blow up doll?
Have as much foreplay as possible.
Urinate right before and directly after having sex. That will wash out any bacteria.
(and don't forget your cranberry juice -- if you are not crazy about the calories, there are cranberry pills you can take)
ANd if he is complaining about pain after sex, seeing a urologist for a workup is key. Either he's got a urinogenital problem or he's being too rough when he's having sex with you.
One more thing; COMMUNICATE. It sounds to me like there is hardly any here at all.
This. And then tell him what you like/need as foreplay to be turned on or in the mood. Most women have to get their engine revved up, so to speak, before actually having sex. I think the pain you are talking about, yours and his, could be contributed to lack of lube which...you must not be wet if there is no foreplay involved unless you're superhuman and get wet at the thought of having sex. Anyway. Foreplay is key for most women and knowing what you like is another big key.
ALL OF THIS!
And you may also want to speak with your OB. I was having alot of UTI's and mine suggested a medication called Macrobid that I could take eachtime I has sex or at the onset of a UTI. Also these ladies are right about the cranberry pills. Good luck!