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Clicky Poll: DH's Going Out
This came up in coversation with a group of friends over the weekend and I'm curious what the norm is around here. This would be before you had kids if you do have kids. So how often does your DH go out with the guys on average? This includes happy hours, guys nights, hunting, camping, golfing, fishing, sports watching, etc. [Poll]
Re: Clicky Poll: DH's Going Out
DH is a homebody, doesn't drink, and most of our friends are couple friends. On the whole, I go out more than he does. I chose never, but now I'm thinking once every six months is probably more accurate.
The last time he "went out" it was because he and a friend were building an midi drum kit. Even then, I was invited to go, but declined on the account of there is not enough wine in the world that can make listening to three hours of electronics talk bearable.
Other: DH is pretty random with the guy stuff. For the most part it's just a once-a-year thing: weekend fishing trip, 3-day dirt biking trip, that kind of thing. Every now and then (maybe every 3-6 months) he has lunch & beer with the guys.
DH's job is different, though. A lot of his time at work is "guy time". They work out together, hang out together, etc. We hang out with the guys away from the station, but then it's usually couples.
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Usually he goes out once a week with the guys. That being said, he also does hang around them quite a bit when they come over to the house. We have an open door policy and the business and whatnot is all close to the house. So it really doesn't bother me.
He has a lot of boys weekends, which at first annoyed me, but now, I really enjoy my time. In fact I look forward to it because I get to spend more time at my house. That being said, I really enjoy the majority of his friends, minus one, so he usually ends up coming back in a positive mood. When he hangs out with sed friend that I don't like, usually that friend comes over to the house and I just avoid him by doing house chores or go out with my friends. And Duck is never in a good mood after being around him, so I just go to bed if they stay up late.
It's taken me a while to get used to him being as social as he is, but I know that he needs that time. Often the guys try to do a dinner night for the gals to come along as well and for the most part we go, but again, for sed friend, I tell him to go alone. Now for the boys weekends, we have a deal. He gets his boys weekends, but then he has to spend time doing what I want to do, i.e. ballets, shows, etc, in return.
I voted Other because:
Before DH travelled full time for work, he'd go on a guys night about twice a month, maybe once a month. Now, it's really changed. I cannot think of the last time he went on just a "guys" night. He's been to a couple of bachelor parties, but those don't really count to me.
That's not to say he never does anything without me, but now it's more about different schedules than specifically having a guys night. I work until 7pm and if he's in town, he will go out with friends while I'm at work. Or, for example, this last Saturday I wanted to lay in bed all day and do a whole lotta nothing
. He went to a friend/neighbor's house for a couple of hours. It worked out JUST perfectly, I read a book, he had a couple beers. All was well with the world!
SO, I think the reason guys nights have been cut out is because:
1. He's gone so often, we rarely see each other
2. When he is out of town, every night is guys night - he can go to the hotel bar with his coworker buddies anytime he wants
3. Our schedules are so different when he's in town, we are doing seperate stuff more often
4. We see each other so seldomly, there's no desire for a guys night out without me.
or maybe that's all in my head and it's just:
5. He doesn't have the cajones to ask me for too many guys night when I'm already b!tching to high heavan about him working out of town
I chose 2-3, but it's probably more like 4 or so.
He plays soccer at least 3 nights a week (sometimes 5). I love that he has such a passion and enjoys sports - but geeeeeze louise it's a lot sometimes.
I come to his games on friday nights and sundays... but he goes to practices with the guys on tuesday, wedesday, thursday alone. Then sometimes, he'll play basketball after work 1 night a week. Most times he'll sacrifice one soccer night for basketball... but not always...
It doesn't leave him much time for chores or me...
I work late a lot so, honestly, it doesn't effect *me* every night - but it's annoying. We've talked about him cutting back... but it hasn't happened yet.
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My DH is a social butterfly. He gets cabin fever at home. When we were dating and about the first year we were married he'd go out or to happy hour with friends about 3-4 times a week. I'd go with him most often.
Then, I started wanting to be home more, and he missed me, so he prob goes out about once a week without me now and on the weekends we usually do something at least one night. So, 2-3 times a week.