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What would you do?
I am watching a tv show right now, called True Beauty. It is a reality show of some sort - I have never watched it before, and it is really just on in the background. However, right now they have the "contestants" on hidden camera and the challenge was that they were in an elevator with a fake pregnant lady. Said lady is drinking a cocktail and smoking a cigarette. The contestants "pass" if they say something to the lady, and "fail" if they don't. It looks like they are only in the elevator for maybe 30-45 seconds. They don't know that this is what they are being graded on. Two of them said something along the lines of "Are you kidding me right now?" or "That is really unhealthy for your baby". They passed. The other two said nothing (one of them didn't even seem to notice that there was a pregnant lady in the elevator), so they failed. Apparently this challenge is supposed to show whether they have compassion for someone else.
I'm just curious what you would do in this situation? The "pregnant" lady was with two friends, who were also drinking. The contestant was alone. I believe the elevator was in a casino? I'm really not sure I'd say anything. I would definitely notice, but I would probably have a mild panic attack about whether or not to say anything, and by the time I decided that maybe I should say something, the elevator ride would probably be over. I also don't think I'd be inclined to get into a heated conversation about someone's lifestyle choices if they outnumber me three to one. So I'm not really sure how I feel about this "challenge". Your thoughts?
Re: What would you do?
I'd probably be one of the "Are you kidding me?" type of girls.
I was in a similar situation on the 4th of July, actually. Saw parents letting their 4 year old light fireworks! (we're not talking sparklers, here) No shiit! I said "Great parenting!" very loudly, and they heard. They left shortly after... probably to go light off fireworks where no one would call the cops on them for letting their children risk blowing their fingers off.
While I didn't confront them, I couldn't not say anything. I guess it was passive aggressive of me.
This. I watch True Beauty every week, but I didn't get to see it last night. Thank goodness for DVR!! I'll probably finish watching the Bachelorette tonight and then watch True Beauty.
The unfortunate thing is that even if you said something some of these women either a) don't care or b) don't have the mental capacity to comprehend the possible damage they are causing to their baby
I knew someone who smoked through two pregnancies. Her kids were fine, so she used that as an excuse to smoke during the third pregnancy.
This is exactly how I felt about it...so do you think it was a fair challenge?
First of all, I would say something about the cigarette in the elevator, pregnant or not. Like I said yesterday, I smoke, but I can't stand it when people are inconsiderate of people who DON'T smoke. Being in a confined space with cigarette smoke is not cool.
The whole pregnancy thing while drinking and smoking... I would probably say something. Not that it would change anything because the chick is going to do whatever she wants to do.... I'm sure it wouldn't be the first time she's heard it, but yeah, I'd probably make a smart ass comment... I'm kind of a biotch like that. I wouldn't worry about getting my ass kicked because... well... let's just say I'm not worried about that
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Yep, that's me too
It does sound like a stupid challenge. I would be thinking things to myself in that situation, and I'd probably do the rude stare, but I wouldn't say anything.
My cousin who just had a baby drank throughout her pregnancy. Not drinking to drunk, just light social drinking. Her doctor said it was fine. One of my coworkers whose two kids are now in college said that her doctor told her the same thing. The kids are all fine.
I don't plan to drink while pregnant, and I would never smoke, but I do think that maybe some things have been blown out of proportion. A lot of doctors are now saying that it's fine to have a cup of coffee a day while you're pregnant, and I know my mom had to drink bland herbal tea when she was pregnant with us, so medical opinions seem to change. (I'll probably avoid caffeine, too, since it affects me at least as much as alcohol does. Also, they say that being tense and anxious is as bad for the baby as anything.)
Well, like I said, it's not a risk I'm going to take, either. I just think that the risk probably isn't quite as high as it's made out to be. That doesn't make it okay to take it.