W.O.T. & Anxiety

kristenhdavis · July 2010

Are there any ladies out there on this board that struggle with clinical anxiety disorders, who have conquered that issue in regards to sex?

Even though you have anxiety are you still able to be on top with all of that attention focused on you? How were you able to overcome your anxiety to be comfortable enough to enjoy it.

I am diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and mild OCD, plus I have always had body issues. I know WOT would feel amazing and I want to do it, but I know that I won't be able to relax enough to enjoy it I would appreciate advice from any who have gone through this.

bhrett · July 2010

I am in the same position. I can't enjoy WOT, but I try to do it for SO. It bothers me a bit, but it doesn't make me miserable. We don't do WOT often, so I can definitely manage a couple times a month to switch it up.

pastrypuff9000 · July 2010

Isn't his attention focused on you in every other position as well?

Have him sit up if you feel like he is just laying there gawking. Would that help?

ungraceful13 · July 2010

Have anxiety as well and body issues and I like to do WOT with the lights off or with a teddy on that covers my tummy. Or RWOT.

jengii · July 2010

I do have anxiety, although I do not really have anxiety during sex... I don't notice any change in the level of attention on me between WOT, missionary, doggy, etc.

A suggestion... instead of him laying flat on his back, try having him sit up more... a la this:

http://www.sex-techniques-and-positions.com/xzadvanced1/5.jpg

You can put your head on his shoulder so you don't feel his eyes on you so much. Then you can work your way to eye contact positions.

DCWJes · July 2010

I have always had body issues about being on top because everything...jiggles. But my husband loves to see it. I finally got over it because I read in a magazine that guys don't care what you look like when you are there. Really, we are the only ones who are conscious of the fact that we jiggle or anything like that. They love it. I realized that my husband isnt a fit guy or anything like that and I love the parts he is self conscious of and the same for him. If it helps, do it with the lights completely off or do it reverse, which can be tricky but worth it.

KellieGaspard · July 2010

Drink some wine or some cocktails to loosen up before you try it the first time. Also, get a teddy to cover you so you don't feel so self-conscious.

KellieGaspard · July 2010

Drink some wine or some cocktails to loosen you up before you try it for the first time. Also, buy a sexy new teddy to cover you so you don't feel so self-conscious.

FroggyFarts · July 2010

pastrypuff9000:
Have him sit up if you feel like he is just laying there gawking.

I had a lot of self esteem issues with WOT. I honestly found having WOT in the car (we have a covered carport!) and WOT facing on the couch (sitting up) helped. I didn't feel stared at until I had gained confidence.

I also really enjoy WOT --in bed, laying-- when I've had 1-2 drinks and I feel calm and comfortable.

But now, I'm okay with WOT most of the time. I rarely get upset or anxious about it anymore.

zaz123 · July 2010

In relation to your anxiety in general and your OCD I would highly recommend you take a look at ordering a program called The Linden Method. I suffered very badly with anxiety all my life until I found this and it gave me my life back. I don't want to sound like some kind of advertisement Smile

so if you want more info feel free to send me a message. Best of luck.

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