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Advice puh-lease.
ok originally Gio was going to be watched 2 days a week by MIL and 3 days by dh's family friend who has watched a good majority of his cousins. She's on my way to work and isn't charging me too much.
So I spoke with her 2 weeks ago and she asked me again what days he'd be there, I told her Mon,Tue & Thurs... then she's like "oh I have him 3 days?" (I have emails from back in march where i told her these days and she said 3 days is fine and she even does overnights.) So i ask "why? is that a problem?" She then responds "well i get my nails done every other monday but i'm sure we can work something out."
So right there i'm a little turned off because wth? So i call my friends mom to see if she'd be available to watch Gio on mondays. She says no problem and give me a price $5 cheaper a day.
Ok so now I have 2 people i could go with...
The pros with sitter #1 she's literally right on the way to work and he'd be the only baby she has right now.. the cons - even tho she NEVER smokes in the house when she's babysitting i think she smokes in the kitchen when there is no one home and the house kinda smells of smoke at least it did last time i stopped there, she's older in her 60's, she often takes small vacations so i'd have to send him to another sitter these weeks/days
the pros with sitter #2 - she is about 10 years younger than sitter #1, my friend would be there a majority of the time so although this sitter has more kids there are at least 2 people there in case of an emergency, i'd be saving $40 a month which i could use to pay bills with, she is always available...the cons - shes about 10 minutes out of my way, she does have other kids/babies there so she has to divide her attn.
Who would you go with? and if I choose my friends mom over a family friend how would i go about telling the family friend we decided to use someone else? I feel so guilty!
Sorry that got long but 
if you got through that lol
Re: Advice puh-lease.
I was also thinking that! Thanks
Personally I wouldn't feel comfortable taking Dex to a sitter who smoked around him period let alone in the house with him there. You didn't give them up to have him exposed to them by someone else. If she does one thing while people are around and another thing when they aren't, she may smoke right around him when no one is there to see it.
I don't know how many babies you are talking about with the #2 sitter but if it's reasonable I would go with her. I LOVE the social interaction that Dexter has because of being with other babies. He's got buddies and it's the cutest thing. Oh yeah, and he has a girlfriend! LOL That being said, if she's looking after more than 4, I may pick Smokey the Bear over her.
I would totally go with this one. 1. no smoke or smoking fumes anywhere near Gio. 2. Not having to find alternative sitter = less stress 3. cheaper 4. more kids. I think Gio needs those few days a week to interact with other kids. Not saying Gio would be like this, but I know the people in Chase's life that have always given him their undivided attention ie, my dad, brothers and IL's, he will always expect it.My dad can not do anything without Chase hanging off him. But he has always had his undivided attention. If Gio grows up knowing that he is isnt totally the center of the universe (most of the time anyway), it will make it easier when you need to set him down somewhere to do laundry or cook dinner.
I would pick #2 because I couldn't stand for my child to be in a home with a person that smoked. I swear I'd be sooooo pissed if I brought my child home and they smelled like smoke. PLUS its cheaper. Even $40/month is a nice savings.
Don't feel bad about the family friend. Hopefully they get over it.
~~~MARRIED BIO~~~