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Finally! A Computer!
Sorry this is going to be a bit long but I'll CN at the bottom
When DH and I got back from our WONDERFUL honeymoon we came back on a Thursday. On Friday we went to spend a night out with H's Best Man and his Wife. After dinner we went back to their trailer, no I'm not hating on it but it does matter to my story, and had a few more drinks. When I got up to go to the restroom BM's wife says to me "The toilet still works and everything but don't mind the towel that we have around the base of it, the toilet has been leaking water." Now if I hadn't have had a few drinks in me I would have been totally weirded out but because I NEEDED to pee I went anyway and didn't think anything about it.
On Saturday we get a frantic call from BM's wife saying that overnight their toilet had leaked so much that the entire bathroom was flooded and that there was a giant hole in the floor from where BM had stepped and the floor had fallen through. They ripped up the toilet and the floor only to discover that there was rotting wood and mold that went from the toilet, under all the flooring and their bathtub and then up the walls of their bathroom, creating a health hazard and ruining their bathroom. The mold also, because it's a trailor, spread into the kitchen.
DH and I offered up the spare room in our house for them to stay if they needed a place because they only have the one bathroom in their trailor and they can't live in it because of the mold. BM accepts the offer and says that they will be out in a few days, a week at the most. Meanwhile, I am frantic because we just got back from our honeymoon, our house is a wreck of wedding explosion and the last thing I want to do is entertain guests for a week.
That night they brought over a HUGE duffle bag of stuff and their 60 pound black lab. We had dinner together and then all went to bed. The next morning I was enjoying the last of my vacation days when I hear a whinning noise,which turned out to be their dog that they had left in it's kennel for the whole morning. So they expect me to take care of their dog basically. The next day after 11 hours of work I come home to more dog hair all over our house then I have ever seen before and spent about 2 hours vaccuuming it all up. I've vaccuumed up dog hair EVERY day!
It's been over 2 weeks since they've moved in and show no signs of leaving. I never have a minute to myself because I'm trying to keep up with all the cleaning and avoiding BM's wife because she's being a total snot. She is always out late and comes back to our house at 2 or 3 in the morning and isn't quiet about it, works 3 hours a day and complains about how hard she's had to work, is constantly complaining about everything and on top of that is always fighting with her DH.
The kicker is that they both have their parents living in the same town as us but refuse to stay with them because "it's awkward"
CN: H's best man and his wife have WAY over stayed their welcome in our home (They said a week, it's been over 2 weeks now) after their bathroom leaked and was filled with mold. I can't stand it any more!
That's why I haven't been on TK/TN or shown off pictures or done anything at all
Re: Finally! A Computer!
What a crappy situation! Is there any sign that they're working on getting thier trailer fixed?
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OMG, that is awful. I'm sorry you are dealing with that. They need to get steppin on finding a new place to live pronto! But I'd still like to say how happy I am you are back online.
PS - I used your crayon idea for my friend's son's 1st bday party over the weekend and the kids loved them. I made star shaped crayons. He had a rock star themed party.
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They claim that they're working on it and that it "Should be any day now" but nothing seems to be getting done.
Oh and here's a nice little bit of bitchy information:
Her birthday was yesterday and had told me that she thought her H would get her a super nice camera and was basically banking on it so when we opened gifts with her yesterday and she got a purse instead of a camera from him she turned into a complete sour-puss. SHe pouted through dinner, sent her food back twice, got drunk and tried to drive and made rude comments to her H all night. On top of that she ignored me like I wasn't there, even though I had set the whole thing up!
Two words, girl. THROAT PUNCH!
Do we need to have an impromptu GTG to TP this chick? lca - bring your spork!
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You poor thing! That's the WORST!! Have you heard anything about how their trailer's doing?
It might help to talk to the wife - if she's only working 3 hours a day she should have time to clean up after and take care of her own dog! Of course you'd have to be more tactful than that...but you need to let her know it's not your job to clean up after her - she needs to be more respectful of your space.
Gosh it sucks to end your vacation like that. I'm so sorry.
Seriously. I'm not even kidding here... Tell them they have until the end of this week to get their sh*t fixed and get the eff out of your house. If they aren't out by Sunday night, toss their stuff outside and change the locks. Eff them!
ETA: I'm bringing a sock fulla quarters... Might be a nice contrast to Marisa's spork shank.
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Awful! I feel your pain! My DH, let his BM move in with us and DH's 2 girls. He told me it was only for a few days - did not consult me. It has been 6 weeks now...yes 6 weeks. Poor kids are shacking up in the same room, 1 bed, 1 sleeps on my air mattress. BM has taken over 1 of the girls' room, he has stuff all over our house, garage, etc. I am soo over it. Pays no rent, eats all the food, drinks everything...
We came home the day after the wedding and my wedding closet is full of his suits, house was trashed and we are having my 50+ family and friends come over from OOT. And he says, I thought you were going on a HM - right - because of free loaders like yourself we are stuck staying here.
I told DH that in no way can he continue to stay, the girls start school next week. And BM moves more stuff in today. DH does not see anything wrong with this. I am soo fed up. Thank goodness he has no dog!
Sheesh. I just don't get that grown ass people act like that. Do they seriously not understand how act like a gracious guest in someone else's home? I'd say you've more than earned the ability to tell them to get out by a certain day. Have your hubby do it if you want (technically he invited them would be the logic I'd use).
Sorry you had to come back to such a friggin mess. But glad to hear your HM was great! Good luck saving your house and your sanity.
OH girl that sucks! And you're so sweet-- I know you've been cooking dinner for them, etc! I honestly would give them a day to be out by. You don't want it to turn into a long-time arrangement. Plus, you and D need your time to be a newlywed couple! I mean it probably feels like you got married and suddenly have grown children!
IMO, if you're friends are kind enough to let you live with them AND you overstay what you said, you are no longer a guest. You can help with the cooking and the cleaning.
You would think she'd be less worried about her expensive camera- or a purse- and more worried about using the money to fix her dang house.
Love xoxo hope it gets better!!
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