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*thisgirlinaustin*
hey there. I saw your post earlier today about that 'young mom' ideal slipping away. I lurk (and ocassionally post when I think I have something to share) on the other board because my heart is ready for a child!
Sadly, my heart is the only thing ready... 
DH has lots of financial plans and I am trying to respect his ideas on the matter and know that he's got the most responsible idea. Bringing a baby into the world with his plan would be better than my plan (which is no plan). We have been married a year and a half and we're probably another year and half away from trying.
It's hard, but again, knowing it's a more responsible plan makes me (sadly) agree. I'm 26 right now, and will most likely be 28 before we have a kid. It's not at all what I had in mind growing up - or even in my early twenties... but it is what it is.
I guess I'm just posting to tell you I'm in a similar place, with similar fears and sadness about all the 'prep' that will be beneficial for starting our family.
Enough rambling from me. Enjoy your newly married status and all that comes from that new phase!
Re: *thisgirlinaustin*
Its really helpful to know that others are in the same position as me. I too know in my head that right now (or in 40 weeks) is not the right time to have a baby and that it will be so much better when we are in a more long-term home and have more stable jobs, but that doesn't change the fact that I long to have a little one and to share that whole experience with my H.
I want to enjoy being newlyweds, just the two of us as well. My master plan had us getting married a year and a half sooner than we did too. It doesn't help that due to our schedules and living on a budget to build up our savings that we don't travel, don't spend frivolously and don't go out a lot either.
But I'm also a firm believer in a master plan greater than my own and I know that things worked out the way they have for a reason, so I try to focus on that. I'm sure that when the time does come, I'll know that it was right to wait.
Thanks for commiserating. I'm so glad to have a place to share those types of thoughts and know that others will understand.
totally. i get it.
believe-you-me in a year and a half when our 'master plan' is ready and we can put all our well laid plans into actions - I'll be over the moon!! Until then, I twittle my thumbs, squirrel away as much money as possible, and have as much (protected) lovin' as I can. Guess it's not all bad!
"The House We Built."
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along the same lines of BOTB, I asked DH what time it was the other day. He guessed a time, and after looking he was correct. I said to him what do you have a clock embedded in your brain. And he nodded with a smarty pants grin on his face. I then replied yah me too... and it goes TICK TICK TICK everyday
I got no repsonse from him.
We are patiently waiting as well, for him to get his new career going.