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Birthday party worry
So, I am throwing my husband a surprise 30th birthday party. I am super excited because it's all working out well and I think he is yet to suspect anything. Currently, I am working on his invites but there is a problem that I need help with.
At this party, it is mostly going to be my & his family and maybe a couple of close friends. The part I'm having a hard time deciding is whether to invite his "best friend." I put it in quotes b/c I don't feel like the guy has EVER been a best friend to my husband. He even got my husband into some mess and almost ruined our whole wedding. He and I do not get along, he is irresponsible and he doesn't get along well with either of our families. The only person who seems like him is my husband.
My question: Do I invite him or not? He lives a long distance and may not be able to come anyway. My husband rarely gets to see him and when he does arrange to meet up hubs and I end up fighting. Can I just cross him off the guest list and not feel guilty?
Re: Birthday party worry
I understand that, but this is a conversation to have at another time.... not during your husband's birthday, that's not fair to him.
I just want to chime in and tell you I know how you feel. My DH has a "best friend", too. This is someone who has been there for my DH in the past, and has (in general) been a great friend to him. However, this person makes poor decisions with his own life, and causes my DH a lot of worry and frustration because the friend won't listen (he thinks he has everything under control, and he SO doesn't). Also, he doesn't treat DH like a "best friend"; he doesn't respond to emails, he doesn't call, he barely comes over or does things with DH... only when it's convenient for him. This makes me not like him, and not want DH to hang out with him.
That being said, I would invite him. He's DH's friend, and I know it would mean a lot just to know that the friend was invited. If the friend doesn't show, it will partly show their true colors.
BTW, what did he do that almost ruined your wedding?
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