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MIL and Unveilling update
So they are moving ahead with doing the unveiling on the day I can't be there. J is upset about it (as that weekend isn't great for him either) but the real weird thing is they still wont tell us exactly why they can't do the last 2 weeks in October.
I am not exactly letting it go as I am hurt (really just because they wont be straight with us) but I am feeling really bad for Jason's oldest cousin her wedding was the weekend after Raymond died and now her baby is due 8 days after the baby is born... which is normally the time you do a bris/baby naming. This is the first baby for our family and the first joy in a long time (between Raymond, Grandpa, and our Uncle having brain cancer) and it is getting thunder jacked.
Oh well, not much to do at this point except bite my lip and whine about it here.
Re: MIL and Unveilling update
That sucks Aliza. I'm sorry. It seems like she would know it was important to J to have you there, and at least give an excuse.
I'm confused by your baby thing. Do you mean the unveiling is 8 days after the baby is due? Maybe the new baby will lighten the load on everyone.
The nerve!
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Do you feel like your MIL is using her grief as an excuse to hurt people feels are ignoring her drama queen moment? That's not a very sympathetic view to take of someone who lost a son. If you feel she's not being genuine about her feelings but rather playing with the idea that her son is gone be prepared for some real grief to come out in weird ways later on. She might even have a harder time talking about it if she's built a facade of a grieving mother (could that be a way of honoring him in her mind?).
I'm mostly talking out of my ass, trying to relate things you've said to things I've experienced. It sounds like the best thing you guys can do is continue to grieve and honor him in your own ways independent of her. Which is sad because your H probably wants to be closer to his family right now.
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PDX, you are spot on. I am trying to not talk about how upset I am in front of J cause I know he is upset himself. He feels like he can no longer be open and honest with his family which he doesn't like. He is hurt by her actions but knows how much Raymond's death has effected him and knows for his Mom it must be magnified by 100 so he doesn't want to upset her.
She has also been a bit of a negative AW so I dunno what is going on. All I know is I won't be there.
That does suck. I understand that she lost her son. I am not even going to go there and try to put myself in her place. However, she isn't the only one that lost him. It just seems that, by her making these plans, she is making it all about her. This sounds like an important event for your family and your faith. I know that people have conflicting schedules. But, I think your H has just as much of a right to grieve, and by excluding you from the event, she is diminishing his support system in that.