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Do your parents and ILs hang out?

Do your parents and your ILs hang out together?  Or even like each other?  We've tried to invite them all over to our house for a cook out, or to all go out to eat and one of them declines.  They've never really been around each other other than our wedding, so they don't have a reason not to like each other.  And they live in the same city, however they never speak (unless they run into each other at a store then it's, "hi and bye.")  I complain to my mom about my MIL sometimes when she does something to irk me, so maybe my mom has developed an opinion about her through that.  Dunno.  I'm not worried about it, just wondering if others were like that.  It will be interesting when/if we have a kid and they are around each other more.
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Re: Do your parents and ILs hang out?

  • haaaaaaaa. my MIL is totally anti-social, and kind of a b!tch. so no, they don't hang out....but my mom, bless her, always says hi and chats to her and my BIL if she sees them out...
  • Nope! They live about 20 hours away from each other and haven't even met...
  • No, not unless it is a planned event (birthday dinner, etc.) where both of us are present. But yes, they do like each other.
  • Nope. I don't think I could handle it if they did.
  • Well, my family lives here and DH's family lives in OH. When the ILs come into town, we always get together with my parents one night while they are here. Everyone gets along very well and they like one another - they just don't live close.
  • My parents have met my IL's a few times but they don't voluntarily hang out. Like Haley, my MIL is pretty anti-social and super hard to talk to (even my H can't have a conversation with her on the phone) so it makes it very awkward. Our dad's get along great, though. 

    Is it weird that I wish they did, though? The way I grew up, my grandparents on both sides were very close to each other (even though they live 2+ hours away from each other), and it's the same way with my cousin's other grandparents also. I mean, for mother's day my mom had her mom, my dad's mom, my Aunt's mom all over for brunch and they had a great time lol. 

  • Ha!  Clearly you all could probably assume from the earlier thread that no, my parents & ILs do not hang out nor do they get along! I mean, if we're all forced together for a shared event we are all civil, but there is no voluntary hanging out "just because." 
  • OMG, no. My parents and the IL's are polar opposites. Mine are reserved and quiet (but not stuffy), while DH's are loud, boisterous, and drink like fish. My mom can get along fine with the IL's, as she's better at going with the flow and knows to just ignore whatever FIL says. My dad and FIL are another story. It's just best not to mix them. FIL can be very annoying and talks a lot and he just plain pisses off my dad.

    There was an incident at the wedding and both dads are at fault and said things that weren't thought out clearly and/or misinterpreted. It was bad and my dad is still pissed that FIL made me cry (only to my parents) the day before the wedding.

    They've only all been together and handful of times and we've found that it's just best not to mix them. The holidays would be so much easier if that weren't the case.

  • My ILs live a few hours away, as do my mom & step-dad, so they don't really hang out. They get along ok, but my mom is really pushy and MIL is very laid back, so it's more like they tolerate each other. My dad & step-mom get along very well with the ILs and have gone to visit them a few times since they live near a city my dad loves.
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  • Mine totally would if they lived closer. My IL's keep asking my parents to come stay at the house and play on the lake. Lucky dogs live on one. They've met quite a few times and it's always been fun. I'm lucky that I have good IL and my DH feels the same way.

  • No, considering my parents live in ATL and DH's live in Colorado. However, even if they did live in the same city, I doubt they would hang out. They are both very pushy, opnionated women and although they play the pretend to like each other (mom much better at this than MIL) roles well. They just both go home and talk sh*t about each other. lol...ugh, glad that wedding is over.
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  • We just have our two moms (both of our dads are deceased) and our moms live about 2.5 hours from each other up north.  They don't "hang out" or at least they haven't yet, but when we go up north we have a get-together and dh's sister's house which is halfway between the 2 moms and both moms come and love to spend time together.  They sometimes talk on the phone and they send each other cards and emails.
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    Is it weird that I wish they did, though? The way I grew up, my grandparents on both sides were very close to each other (even though they live 2+ hours away from each other), and it's the same way with my cousin's other grandparents also. I mean, for mother's day my mom had her mom, my dad's mom, my Aunt's mom all over for brunch and they had a great time lol. 

    I don't think so.  I wish mine did.  To a certain extent, of course.  I mean, don't hang out all the time, but come over and have GTGs at my house or something.  I have a very large family and H's family is just four of them and that's all.  So I wish they would come when we have family functions.  However, there is only so much of each family that I can handle.  Maybe it's a good thing they don't want to hang out with us all the time, lol.   I just hate it when we try to have both sides over and I get excited about it, etc. then one side always declines for some reason, but I really just think they don't want to socialize with each other.  My family is more outgoing and his is more hermit like.

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  • This is how it goes. My mother say something that can be taken wrong... not exactly mean, but not so nice either.. and then my MIL completely blows it out of portion and pouts all weekend. It has happened a couple of times. It stinks. I am too old for this.
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  • My parents and ILs go to church together, so they do social activities together (like dancing). They don't hang out together on their own, but if we are all getting together for an activity, they get along great. They don't call/email each other though.
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