April 2008 Weddings
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Weird - wedding gift from BM

I don't know if any of you remember but a few months before our wedding, there was a lot of drama with two of my BMs (one dropped out and basically started all the drama, we haven't spoken since) and several of the GM who were all part of the group that went to HS with DH...

We've kind of patched things up, although I have to admit I still hold that whole group somewhat at arm's length since then (they don't realize it but I will never confide in them or completely trust them again since they all listened to lies about me without trying to hear what I had to say, etc., etc., but that's digressing). 

Anyway, we were with this group last night (minus the BM who dropped out).  Oh, more background- at the time of the wedding she was "making" some big thing for our wedding gift and told us it would be late.  We said, eh, that's fine, no obligation for gift anyways.

I had completely forgotten about it, but last night the BM mentioned that she's still working on it, and don't worry, we'll get it someday.  I just thought it was funny- I don't really care and I kind of figured since it's taken this long that whatever it was, we wouldn't get it.

I'm curious what it is (some kind of quilt or blanket?), although I have to admit I'm also a little reluctant.  I think there is some involvement with the BM who dropped out and was nasty to me, because during the nastiness she kept telling me in a snide way how much I would like it.  And yesterday it came up after her name came up, as if it reminded my other BM about it.

I'm not sure I want it... and if I do get it, lol, I don't have my thank you stationery from the wedding, although I'll still write a thank you card, regardless.

Did anybody else get really late wedding gifts?

Re: Weird - wedding gift from BM

  • We didn't get any late wedding gifts.  We did have one couple that said they forgot the gift at home, but we never received and never reminded them about it.  It wasn't a big deal and it hasn't come up.  The fact that this gift is still in the works and being talked about by the BMs two years after the wedding is a little strange.  Might as well make it anniversary gift. lol
  • We had several friends tell us that they would be bringing gifts to us after the wedding because they either forgot them or didn't want to haul them around all day cause they were in the WP. Both understandable, and gifts aren't mandatory so I was like whatever. We haven't received any of the gifts from any of these people - that were apparently already purchased - either way I don't care, but I do kind of wished that they hadn't said anything and just left it at that.
  • I didn't get anything late. I'd be in your boat too, I wouldn't particularly care anymore either. However, not being involved in the situation, I'm curious as to what this gift is, over 2 years in the making, lol! I hope you get it soon so you can share
  • jenthjenth member

    Well, if I do get it, I'll tell you ladies what it is.

    I feel pretty snarky about the whole thing, I have to admit.  The way she is, I wouldn't be surprised if we never got anything.  I don't care, I just wish she would stop reminding me about it and telling me it's coming.  I wonder if maybe she feels guilty or something.  But we did tell them that they don't need to give us a gift, even around the time of the wedding.  So who knows... ::shrug::

    And I realize what I wrote ended up being pretty long, so cheers to anybody who got through it!  (It's O'Doul's for the pregnant ladies...) Beer

  • We had some gifts come after the wedding. One was lost in the mail for about 6 months. I just figured we weren't getting a gift from the couple no big deal. He asked a friend if she got a thank you bc they hadn't. Friend informed them thank yous were sent immediately. I got a phone call asking if I received the gift.....nope never got it. Luckily they had the store resend it :) I had people say they were going to send something & didn't.
  • I had 2 friends say they were going to get us something later.  One ended up giving us something right before our 1 year anniversary and the other never got us anything.  I've never mentioned it to her (weddings aren't about the gifts afterall but why say something to me in the first place).  She was a BM and I'm in her upcoming wedding.  I think I'm not going to mention in and still get them a gift but probably not as big as I would normally have given.  Plus, I have to fly to Buffalo twice for the wedding and shower and the wedding is on New Years Day so that's kind of a bummer b/c I can't go anywhere at the end of Dec.
    BabyFruit Ticker
  • I'm not sure if I would keep the gift if I were you, especially if it is going to make you think about the dama and crap before your wedding.

    We got a gift from a GM 11 months after our wedding, lol. And we got a gift on our one year anniversary from our other friends (the wife didn't realize the hubby never bought us a gift and felt terrible). My BFF/MOH still has our wedding gift. She bought some big gift and never got around to shipping it and we couldn't carry it back (although I have no idea what it is) when we went to her wedding in DC in January. We have some flakey friends!

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