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Need big creative ideas

Been married 3 years. I am just so bored with our sex life. I want to spice things up. My DH doesnt seem interested though. I dont know where to start. I feel like I cant get DH in the mood at all anymore. Its like he is bored of me also. Wearing lingerie doesnt do anything, mastubrating in front of him does nothing. I need some ideas. I need big ideas

Re: Need big creative ideas

  • Not all guys are into lingerie or watching a show.:)

     Have you spoken to him at  length? If not, I strongly suggest you do.

    What originally turned him on? Try that and then go from there.

  • I see you have a LO in your siggy. Might your H just be exhausted with all the strains of adulthood and parenting? (Obviously, you are as well.)

    How about a weekend away together? You could leave your LO with your parents/ILs/other family member and plan a romantic getaway - catch up on sleep, drink too much wine, have a long relaxing dinner together, etc.

    Hope is not a strategy.
  • Yeah probably a combination of everything. We did get away last month for a weekend getaway. I think it's just me who feels this way. I just want more romance, time together. I am so bored. I dont know how to get him to be part of that though. If I come up with ideas, I am sure he will do them with me
  • I bought a plastic shower curtain from the Dollar Store and a huge bottle of baby oil.  I sent the kids to my mom's for the night.  We went to dinner.  When we got home, I set him to the kitchen to open a bottle of wine.  I just so happend to make the cork screw a little harder to find than normal.  While he was looking for it, I spread out the shower curtain on the floor.  I offered him a massage.  Things got a little messy from there.  It was fun. 
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  • imageoldbugle:
    Maybe your marriage/relationship has run it's course....perhaps it's time for a divorce, or a boyfriend,...or a threesome....

    Stop being weird, old man. 

  • Sometimes the best ideas are the simple ones.  When he's in the shower, jump in with him wearing a thin white t shirt.  Wear something lingerie related that is very different from what you normally wear.  try sex outdoors.  Try sex in a different room in your house.  Try a new position.  Send him sexy pictures on his phone.  Give him a massage with a happy ending in bed and let him go to sleep without returning the favor.  He can owe you one;-)  Have fun!
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