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Nothing like a little family drama
I'm hosting a shower for my FSIL today at my parents house. It's for my dad's side of the family plus some friends that weren't invited to the other showers. I didn't invite some cousins and an aunt to the shower that weren't invited to the wedding. Which is proper etiquette. I asked my mom about whether I should or should not invite these certain people and she said no.
Now, I've had a message from my Grandma and one of my aunts (that is invited) saying my cousin really wants to come. Fine I email her and "invite" her. Then I called Grandma to just let her know and ask if this aunt really wanted to come. She said that probably not, she didn't come to several other family events that she was invited to which is true and even when she says she's coming she usually doesn't show. Fine. Good. I haven't invited her and according to Grandma that's fine.
Now my mom just called me saying she had a message from the aunt who FBed me previously (but not about my other aunt) that my aunt who wasn't invited was really disappointed she wasn't invited and really wants to come. Because all of a sudden she wants to attend a family event. GAH!
I told my mom she could call and invite her. I don't go around telling people who to invite to their parties. So frustrated.
Re: Nothing like a little family drama
I feel your pain. I am pretty sensitive about things appearing as "gift grabs" so I am careful to follow rules of etiquette when it comes to stuff like this. I went through similar stuff with my wedding invites...unecessary drama.
How'd the shower go?
Oh I can't even start on what llama drama it was. Well, not the shower itself. That was just fine. But neither of the people who I hadn't invited came even after I invited them and there was major drama behind the scene. My aunt's (who wasn't invited) partner called my dad and my dad could hear my aunt just screaming and freaking out in the background about how she wasn't invited to the wedding and family is so important to her (which is why, I'm assuming, she comes to almost NO family events). So yeah.
Glad it's over. Now showers are done for my FSIL and I can relax.
I sooooo know what you're talking about. It's just ridiculous. Sorry you had to deal with it. I get so frustrated when I plan an event and stuff like that happens, it kind of takes the wind out of my sails.
I'm sure everyone else sees their behaviour the same way you do (hopefully), and just ignore their drama.