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His and hers fb page ?
Ok so the hubby and I do not have fb pages. We stayed away from it because when myspace was the thing, we had started dating. And his ex used to leave comments on his page as well as comments on our pics and even my comments to him. So he shut down his page and I stopped going on mine, just to avoid the drama. And to avoid me going to beat her down.
Well everyone bugs both of us about not having one, friends and family, in town and out. Even our photographer was laughing because we didnt. So we are thinking of just having one page to keep in touch with them. Is this wierd ? Do people share a page or should we just consider doing seperate ones ? TIA
Re: His and hers fb page ?
I am so glad to know I am not the only one! I do not have a FB page either. However, H does and he is friends with a few of my friends, my sister, cousins, so we usually check it together or he tells me if someone responded to something I said or they asked me.
My sister has been begging me to get one forever, but I am just not so sure I need/want one. Esp with all of the crap I hear about exes, etc. I don't need that drama in my life. I think for now, I am just going to share with H.
I have seen people do his and hers pages before, but everyone I know who has done it, eventually just separated to two profiles.
I'd personally do my own page. The privacy settings on the pages are very cool.
You can set your whole profile to friends only to avoid the ex drama and just not add her. Or, if she "must" be added, you can make her own group to list her and anyone else in that limits her access to your profile. Such as she can't see your pictures.
Perhaps, you should set up an account with the intention of making a his and hers page and after seeing the set up/maintenance decide if you want to remain that way.
I like facebook, but I don't use it THAT much. It's a great way to get in touch with people though, and to keep old contacts. I've used it for networking a lot. I don't think I'd do a joint page for that reason though, your contacts aren't necessarily going to care about your hubby!
The privacy settings are great though, you can totally block people from ever "friending" you if they're going to cause drama.
They way they have privacy controls now there's no way anyone can see anything if you dont want them too, as long as you check out your account settings & privacy ones once a month or so to make sure they havent changed anything. (Like the new phone book, god is that annoying.)
I kind of get annoyed by the his & hers thing. I have some friends who do it, & then every single time they comment on something or they pop up on IM or they put something on the feed you have to ask them which one its coming from.
I agree. My friends make fun of people who share an account "so and so won't even let her husband have his own fb account..trust issues?" That type of thing. It doesn't bother me really, but it is irritating when you don't know who is actually using the account.
I haaaaaaaaate seeing "Joe and Mindy Smith" on a FB page. I know in some situations (like yours, it sounds like) it's just for convenience, but there are so many psycho wives/SOs who demand the shared page to watch over their H/SO. LAME!!
It's not that difficult to just log out of one and into another account, so I totally suggest separate accts, if only to avoid the massive eyerolls you'd get at a shared acct.
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I agree with hippie. It bugs me when I see couples sharing a page. Also, my H plays Farmville and several other games on FB and it would drive me NUTS if I had that crap on my page and had to deal with that stuff all the time.
FB is awesome with their privacy settings. You can completely lock down your page so only your friends can see anything. I was concerned at first since I'm a teacher and I didn't really want the parents of my students seeing what my personal life is like but I have it locked down enough that I think I'm good.
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Like some others have said, I would suggest seperate accounts.
I used to have a myspace account and I know exactly what you mean about the drama. But I haven't encountered any of that on fb. Its a great way to keep in touch with people too. Plus, like others have said there are tons of privacy features now, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.
Yeah I can't help but roll my eyes when I see couples sharing an account. Mostly I use FB for networking or keeping in touch with old friends, so I don't see the point of having it as a joint account. Plus, people can still search me by my maiden name. I have pretty strict privacy controls so no one can see photos, write on my wall, see any information, etc without me accepting them as a friend. Then there's no worry about crazy exes, especially because you can block specific people from even searching for you.
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When I see his and hers FB pages, I always give them the side-eye.
D has his and I have mine. Because we do NOT have the same friends all around. And I doubt he would want some of the stuff in my news feed all over his page.
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THIS! and sometimes my friends message me/chat about with some pretty private and personal things since it's such an easy way to get in contact- it's none of FI's business. he doesn't need to see it.
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I'm on FB all the time. It's a serious addiction
But yeah, I'd stay away from the joint thing. I think it's kind of weird, and I'm always confused about who I'm talking to when I'm talking with someone who has a joint one. It's way different from having a joint email address.
Plus I think FB is so fun, you'll want your own account as soon as you get hooked.
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ase pelase pelase do seperate accounts. Like many other have said, it really bugs me to see his and her facebook accounts.
Facebook really is *nothing* like myspace. Explore the privacy settings. They can be a little tricky at first, but it is pretty easy to lock up your facebook pretty tight.