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Grandparents playing favorites..
I know many of you dont have kids yet, but when you do how will you deal with the grandparents playing favorites among the grandkids if it happens?
Re: Grandparents playing favorites..
Depends on how the favoritism is manifested.
What's the story?
Keeping it short, I have noticed that Jaiden gets treated differently than the other grandkids do. Granted one is only 2 month old. Some of the little things that i noticed are
1. When he was little they never had a carseat for laying around so that when/if he spent time with them they would have one. Now they have an infant carrier now that SIL had her baby.
2. Also when we go to their house they always said sorry baby but the toys are in the back of the closet and we havent dug them out (this has been going on for months), then they get the baby for a few hours, mind you hes a month old at this point and there were baby toys everywhere. I said oh these must be for the baby and she was like yea, then retracted her answer and said they were for both boys.
3. They never ask how Jaiden and can go weeks without seeing him, but yet they make every effort to see the other grandkids (they have 2 a 5yr old and 2 month old).
Those are just a few. I know its nothing major as of yet, but im not sure what I should do if it starts to get worse and he gets treated like the outcast. Oh and I should mention that DH is the only boy and got treated the same way from his mom, who favors the girls BIGTIME.
He is hurt by it. One of the last conservations we had about this he said that if it continues that he will cut ties with all of them until they can treat Jaiden with the same respect that the others get. I personally dont want it to come to this, but im not sure what other roads we can take so that it doesnt come to this.
Thats so unfair to Jaiden! I totally understand wanting to get this resolved before he gets older. I have no advice for you, I am sorry that you guys have to go through this though. I am afraid that its going to happen to us one day because my sister is about to have her first baby and we (eventually) want to adopt. When ever I mention adoption my mom says "don't you want like your own real baby". I am afraid if that is the attitude she already has, things will not be good.
Yes he will be talking to them about this. Cutting ties will only happen if they continue this behavior. I am really hoping that once the conservation happens that they will change, but something tell me they wont. We are going to see how the next couple months play out though before we talk to them.