Did you stick to your baby timeline?

SCbrideinTX · July 2010

Hi! I'm not really a regular over here, but I do try to check in occasionally. It seems like the board is starting to pick some speed lately, so I thought that I'd join in. A few of you might remember me from the knot, and I have posted here a few times.

So, anyway, a ton of my co-workers have been getting pregnant and having kids lately, and it has me thinking about babies. I know that the hubby and I aren't quite ready to take that leap yet, but when we got married I had a long list of things that I wanted us to do before kids and now many of those are starting to be removed from the list and the time frame to start TCC keeps getting moved closer. I was just curious if everyone else had a plan in mind for when they wanted to have kids when they got married? And if so, did you stick to that plan after the wedding, or did baby fever set in and your plans get thrown out the window?

Just curious! Hope everyone is having a great day : )

missjanel · July 2010

For the most part we have stuck to our entire timeline. We did push back TTC for 6 months due to DH having to work on a project near the border. He was only home on the weekends and I didn't want to be pregnant and alone all week. In the end he took a second project in the valley and we just couldn't push it back any more. We are older though so we felt we needed to try before we were both aged any more. If age had not been a factor I could have been very happy pushing it back farther so we could have done more traveling. It just wasn't in the cards for us though. We now have a 15 month old and are really pressed to start TTC again. Hopefully two kids and we are done.

Smores730 · July 2010

We stuck to our original plans, but it was really hard (moreso for me then DH) I'd encourage you to stick to your guns and enjoy whatever activities and things you have left on your list because it becomes so much harder to do once you're parents. Vacations for example will never be the same. If you take your kiddo with you, you don't feel like you're on a vacation at all. When you leave them behind, you miss them terribly!

SCbrideinTX · July 2010

Yea, there are still a lot of things that I want to do before we have any kiddos. I definitely want to finish my master's degree and take a few nice trips. And DH wants to go to the police academy and put in some time with a police department. But baby fever is definitely starting, and I'm realizing that it's going to be harder to wait than I thought, lol.

MrsMooseTL · July 2010

We just knew we wanted to wait a couple years after we got married. We'll have been married 3 years on Nov 17 and our son is due on Nov 19. lol We had actually started trying last summer, but I was REALLY irregular after coming off the pill. Back in March I was supposed to go to the doctor to find out what if something was wrong or what we could do to get the ball rolling, and two days before my appt I got my BFP.

mandarod · July 2010

Yes, we did. We got married at 22 and wanted to wait a while so that we could go to grad school, get better jobs and buy a house. DD was born just a month before our 5th anniversary.

dondraandluis · July 2010

We didn't stick to ours but we had a plan before we got married. We had planned to start earlier but school got in the way. Then we made a new plan and that didn't work out. If I had known what I do know I would have stuck to the original plan and we would have known about my issues earlier(I have a uterine septum). Now we are way past when we thought we would have kids and have been at it for almost 2 years. Unfortunately plans don't always work out, especially when it comes to TTC. Honestly, if you are both ready and there is nothing standing in your way then why wait? Do what is right for you guys and don't be pressured by others decisions. Good luck and I hope things work out well for you guys.

swimrbride · July 2010

We did. We had planned on starting to try 2 years after we were married as long as I was done with grad school, had a job, and we had a house. We were very adament that all that be done before we had a baby. Thankfully everything worked out well for us. If you are rethinking your timeline then talk with DH about it and figure out what things are definite must do's before having a baby and what can wait.

.happy.as.just.kim. · July 2010

We did...sort of. My DH is in the Air Force and we knew we'd be getting overseas orders about 9 months after we got married. We knew we didn't want to wait a long time (we were both 31 when we got married), but our plan was to start a family after we moved to Japan and got settled. I went off the pill thinking it would take a bit to get my system back into a regular cycle and I thought with a few other minor medical issues it would just take us a while anyway. I found out I was pregnant in December...we didn't move until the next March. So we were off by a few months. But it turned out to be fine in the end and our daughter will turn 1 next month. I think it is just something you and DH have to decide together and whenever you are ready, go for it. There will always be the want for more $, more trips, more school...whatever...and there is never the "perfect' time, but then life becomes perfect when your little one joins your family!

panarama99 · July 2010

We didn't - we actually moved ours up a few months when we found out that my father had terminal lung cancer. We were going to wait until Oct of 09 to start TTC, but we started June of 09 instead (and got pregnant right away). It's funny to think that if we'd started when we originally planned to, we'd have a newborn instead of a 4-month-old right now,

tulips71 · July 2010

Nope, I'm way past when I thought I'd start and I'm happy I waited. DH and I have been married 4 years now and I love the time that I've had with him. I went through baby fever phases, but they passed. We'll see what happens but I'm in no rush to start anytime soon (I'm 31 and he's 33). He wants one now but I'm content as is, for now. We're also discussing how many at this point as my number has gone over the year from 4 to 1. He wants 2. Bottom line is do what works for you. I go through bouts of worrying about what everyone else wants for me when it comes to kids, but it'll happen when I'm ready.

lindsey.flory · August 2010

Wow! I know EXACTLY what you mean. It's so hard to ignore baby fever. I actually took a year off school after we got married and got "graduate school" fever and decided to go back. I knew I wanted to go back to school, but I just thought I would save money first. Our timeline to start trying to have kids was supposed to be this year but we pushed it to start trying (is that what TTC means? sorry I'm acronym retarded), until next fall 2011. So this gives me one year to loose some much needed weight and finish my masters program and take my licensing exam. So far our "plan" has been set into place. It is so hard not to go ahead and begin though. We waited five years to get married so we have been together now for almost 7 years. It's pretty hard when everyone you know has been together for a shorter time and is having babies. I think the weight and house thing has been a big deciding factor for me. I know what my goal weight is, and it would be silly to compromise my health when I don't need to. So until then, I just love my nieces and nephews to death and hope that's enough to quell the fever

Christy_Woodson · August 2010

I am a newbie to the nest and bump portion of the site but I already have an 8 year old son and have serious baby fever...to the point of wanting a dog to get me through! My husband says no to both..... Crying .

We agreed to wait until we were married for a year to try to conceive (I assume thats what the TTC means!). I tried to address it once more and he is not budging...he originally wanted to wait 2 years and I wanted honeymoon action so one year is the middle.

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