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How do you keep calm?
I have been working on ways to keep calm and not be so anxious and I've come up with a few things that are working for me (leaving my laptop at work a few nights a week, taking long baths, reading, etc....) What do you do to keep calm and balanced in your life?
Re: How do you keep calm?
Avoid my mom's phone calls
I get anxious really easily too. It has helped to keep lists. It feels very rewarding to check something off when it's done. I also make sure to unwind for at least a half hour before bed, just sitting on the couch watching tv or chatting online or whatever. Then when I go to bed my mind isn't racing.
I love lists!
I try to so some minor stretches with deep breathing. The breathing really works for me.
I love getting massages too. I got a massage a month memebership for christmas plus my birthday this year, and that has been awesome.
Hahaha...Avoiding my mom's phone calls helps me too. As much as I hate it, Exercise really helps. Also, just remembering to take me time (going shopping on my own, reading, watching trash tv, getting a pedicure, surfing online). A little time away from everything really helps me to calm down.
Do things you enjoy doing- it's so easy to get caught up in "life" and get into the routine of up, shower, drive to work, work, drive home, eat dinner, take a shower, talk to DH, go to bed.
Try to mix up your evenings 1-2 nights a week with a walk, a trip to the gym, a class, volunteering, etc. It was hard in grad school because I was gogogo nonstop between working FT then in grad school at night, my weekends were consumed with homework plus I was fostering, but I have to say that taking that time out in the evenings or weekends to walk/play with the dogs, volunteer, etc. really helped keep me balanced.
I'm also all about grabbing a girlfriend to going to lunch, dinner, mani/pedi, a movie, coffee, etc now and then.
When I'm feeling anxious I too am a list-maker it helps me to just get sh!t done. However, what you said about keeping calm and balanced in your life, resonated with another practice I try to maintain.
In one of my grad school classes on psychotherapy, we discussed the practice of Focusing, and even began each class with a Focusing exercise. It may sound cheesy to some, but its become an essential part of my day. I only do it for 10-15 minutes in the morning but it helps me gain perspective at the beginning of the day too.
Sometimes I do feel overwhelmed, anxious, stressed, etc. and this has helped me not feel consumed by it, but rather explore what's behind it.
Like Punky said, find something that you enjoy doing and make time in your schedule for it.
Is something in particular making you anxious?
Thanks guys! great tips and I made a list (hahaha!) of all the things that are interesting to me on this post that I'd like to try.
Buckeye, I'd love to hear more about the Focusing stuff. Is it a particular technique. I have tons of stuff making me anxious, but I think mostly we've been TTC for 15 months now and I'm sooooooo anxious about it. I feel like as soon as that line changes on the test, a lot of my anxiety will actually be cured!
A nice long hot shower and a glass of wine always does the trick for me..but when I am extra stressed I take a yoga class- I always feel better after leaving yoga...