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sex after 30 years of marrage

for the last couple of years I do not think my wife has had an orgasm.  I have worked for 60 mins and nothing.  after 5 mins she says she is ready but I dont think she is.  for the last year our sex has been 10 mins of me getting off and her helping me get off.  If I stop asking for sex she get upset. if I want to talk she says she is fine.   I am worried, if i went 6 months without an orgasm I would be tring everything to fix it.  do other women have sex without have orgasm often..   she told her friend that "we do it all the time and it great" . i am not so sure.

 

 

Re: sex after 30 years of marrage

  • I have never had an orgasm during sex and I love sex. If she truly isn't worried about it, then don't you be either. But be pretty damn sure she is ok with it.
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  • Thanks I will keep trying to make sure

     

  • imagebobevens:

    for the last couple of years I do not think my wife has had an orgasm.  I have worked for 60 mins and nothing.  after 5 mins she says she is ready but I dont think she is.  for the last year our sex has been 10 mins of me getting off and her helping me get off.  If I stop asking for sex she get upset. if I want to talk she says she is fine.   I am worried, if i went 6 months without an orgasm I would be tring everything to fix it.  do other women have sex without have orgasm often..   she told her friend that "we do it all the time and it great" . i am not so sure.

    You and she need to get out of a sexual rut.

    Suggestions: how about you jump into the shower with her -- or set up a real nice bubble bath, complete with candles and music on an ipod and a good bottle of wine...and ask her to come join you?;)

    Date nights would be a good idea -- and treat it like a REAL DATE - make reservations at a restaurant, get dressed up, bring flowers, go the whole nine yards.

  • imagebuttercupaug06:
    I have never had an orgasm during sex and I love sex. If she truly isn't worried about it, then don't you be either. But be pretty damn sure she is ok with it.

    same here.


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  • You said this is just for the last couple of years - could it be related to menopause? The changing hormone levels could definitely have an effect.

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  • That could be it.  she stop having her monthly visitor a couple of years ago.  is there a blood test of some way to check.  you may have something here.

    Thanks

     

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