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FFFC's!
Anybody have anything?
I'm sitting around watching SATC re-runs on On Demand while the flooring guys works away. I'm thinking about making cupcakes to celebrate not having to write/study/research anything this weekend.
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Re: FFFC's!
Oh, sorry! Flame Free Friday Confessions. The theory is that you can post whatever you want that might normally get people on your case (flaming) without the consequences.
Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. It's supposed to be all in good fun.
I took off work Wednesday and had some girls over to hang out in the pool. While sunning ourselves and talking sh!t, the guys came to mow our yard. I felt bad that I didn't feel bad that while they were mowing my yard I was laying around on my @ss drinking natty light and having a gossip session with my friends.
Also, and this is more of the flameful part - I have noticed - when the illegals show up to mow my yard, it looks damn perfect and they don't end up with two bags full of grass in my pool (which takes me forever to clean). When the American Citizens people show up, they miss spots everywhere and I end up with two bags of grass in my pool. I am being serious - I have done a non-scientific study on this. I also believe the illegals my lawn guy hires are probably fifteen times smarter than the non-illegals people he has hired. Comprende?
I'm laughing my a** off because it's so dang true!
ha ha ha
This is shitty and bratty on more levels than I care to admit...
My birthday is this weekend and I am pissed that none of my family is making a big deal out of it. Not DH, not my parents, not my sister, not my inlaws. I get to spend Saturday at a bday party for a guy I have only met twice (Dh's step grandfathers) and then Sunday I get to spend the day with Dh's grandparents.
My DH just called my sister Wednesday to see if she had any ideas of a gift he could get me. I have plans to go all out for his birthday this year since it will be right before LO gets here. I was thinking he would maybe do the same. (My last birthday to be totally spoiled.) I seem to be wrong and could honestly cry about it, I know it's stupid.
Ok, I seriously have tears in my eyes. Pity party? Right here baby!
I have another one - the newspaper today is discussing "Deadbeat parents" and how felonies have been issued for those that are not paying child support. I support this.
However, one person found out, when the child was 10 years old, that he was a father and he now owes $72k in back child support for the kid - keeping in mind, the mother didn't file the judgement until the child was 10 years old either - so its not like she filed when the child was born and the judgement has been outstanding the entire ten years. I think this is absolutely wrong. Do I think he should pay child support? Yes. Do I think he owes child support for the 10 years in which he had NO IDEA he was a father? Fvck no.
I felt the same this year. My mom had planned to cook a big family dinner for my birthday, but it got cancelled, because they were too tired. Then we had planned on going out to eat, just the immediate family for my birthday...well that got cancelled too. None of the above has been rescheduled. I threw a big pitty party for myself and blammed it on hormones. So I feel ya sister!
I just thought of a confession...
My IL's are driving me NUTS lately. I've spoken with H about it, and he agrees that their behavior is annoying. MIL is obsessed with "fixing" our house, mostly because she doesn't like the paint colors, the trim colors, the fact that there is no mantle on the fireplace, whatever. It's not her style, so it's not "right." I want to tell her woman, you have no style. You buy your rugs and artwork at Sam's and you live in an $800,000 home with 6600 sq. ft. And you have bunnies everywhere. What do you think you have to teach me?
FIL has just been a jackass. The funny thing is, he's more of a jackass now that he's QUIT drinking. The only thing he ever wants to talk about is work. And that's really boring for everyone else. I was talking to MIL about my sister's ex-husband and how he's already engaged (they divorced in Jan. and my sister's name STILL isn't off the house title!) and FIL looked at me and said, "And I care why???" I responded with, "Oh, I'm sorry I wasn't talking about politics or the law. I'll make sure to brush up next time so you and I can chat." Or something like that. I know it made MIL choke on her drink because she laughed so hard.
They also feed Callie treats and table scraps when we have specifically said not to. I like to eat my dinner without a dog in my face, thank you. And she's a really good dog who doesn't beg. I said something along those lines to FIL and he said, "If you want her to stay that way then you probably need to stop bringing her over here." I was shocked. Seriously, she's OUR dog, not yours. You don't have to live with her gas and her runny shiits in the backyard when you feed her leftover fatty steak or too many treats. When I would dog-sit for my sister, I gave the dogs nothing more than was on their meal plan, and nothing less. No extra treats, no "auntie" behavior. Am I crazy for thinking that having boundaries for my dog is a good thing???
/end rant
Oh Lordy, honey, just wait 'til you have a kid. I feel for you. My dog gets fed table scraps when we go to my parents and I STILL cannot get my grandparents to quit putting coke in Bentley's sippy cup whenever they have their daily one at 3pm. I wish there was some other way to get the point across without being flat out rude...but I love my grandparents and my parents and I know their intentions aren't evil, so I deal. When I'm around, it goes my way. When I turn my back, I hope they'll semi-follow my rules, but I get that it's not a life or death matter and they're not meaning to disrespect me. (I'm not saying you are insinuating that your dog being fed table scraps is, by the way LOL)
My confession is that I'd really like to pawn my kid off on anyone who will take him and go eat sushi and drink a bottle of wine. Even if it was all by myself, I'd much rather do that than deal with the fvcking tantrums I have been dealing with ALL DAY LONG.
Oh man do I feel your pain here. We've definitely had those days. Hang in there.
Sometimes a night out for good food and a little wine is just what the doctor ordered. When you're a little refreshed you can deal a lot better.
Yes, Boymom, I've realized that if we have a kid this battle is going to continue. I actually caught MIL in the act and said, "No! No no no no no no!" and she literally froze. It was quite funny.
I realize that for some people, part of having grandparents is to be spoiled by them. I never had grandparents as they all passed away before my first birthday. My aunts and uncles were never spoilers, either. I never understood the being spoiled by a relative thing. We all got what we got and no one ever went behind someone's back when it came to parenting issues. But, whatever.
I have managed to make some things clear to them over the years--do not ask me when I'm going to have your grandchildren, do not show up at my house unannounced, and do not tell me how to do my job.
I plan on winning this battle, if you couldn't already tell
I don't think its sh!tty or bratty. since V was born no one really remembers my birthday at all. it sort of hurts each year when it is all about him. And even the year I was pregnant with him, my birthday was still all about him since I was having him the next day. you should tell him how you feel!
I call M "sister" and H thought it was weird, but now he does it too. I don't call V "brother" though. sort of weird now that I think about it. They both refer to eachother as sister and bruh-bruh though.
Still, it bugs me that my friend calls her kids "siisy" and "bubba". And I think it is totally CRAZY when a husband and wife call eachother mommy and daddy.
See, my dh is the same but opposite if that makes sense! He tries to fix things but I trust a repairman more (I know...). The other day he was attempting to talk me into allowing him to install shutters. I glared at him for 4 minutes before asking, "who is going to help?" He got the hint.
no, that, I think is normal. I mean when the kids aren't around. Like two adults out together just calling eachother Mommy and Daddy. No kids around at all.
Oh boy. I feel ya sista. My husband could barely use a hammer when we started dating. My father is VERY handy - he's an inventor for crying outloud - so he can do everything, do it well, and without 900 trips to Lowe's. I try to be patient - I really do - but Jesus it drives me insane that I know more about home improvement projects and car maintenance than he does.
this made me LOL. H is super handy and I am often amazed at the things he can fix, but he probably goes to Lowes and/or Home Depot 3 times a day!