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No sex drive! Help
I hope there's someone out there that can relate to my situation.. I'm about to be a year into my marriage.. that has been a tough year! Just with all the adjusting! But anywho.. Before i got married i was you can say very freaky sexually, but as soon as i wanna say 6 months into my marriage things change... there is NO SEX DRIVE! I'm 22 years old.. i must say i do suffer from what i just found out i have IBS (Irritable bowel syndrom!!) which i just developed strongly! SIDE NOTE: before i knew what was going on with my syndrom, everything and till this day when we did get it on it was a painfull feeling like if my uterius gets swollen inside with sharpe pains!! we've tried many different positions lots of lube!! but at the end theres just tears and guilt! (tears cause it hurts and guilt cause the hubby feels bad) Ive been to the doctor a couple of times and everything seems to look fine down there.. i have described everything i feel .. i even had an ultra sound done.. and no there no galstones.. or nothing for that matter that can give me an idea of whats going on... .. but i think the fear of my pain has put our sex life on hold... i cant think of what else it can be.. also when ever it has been possible to have intimacy after its all over i feel like a blow fish! boated and in pain!! also i have found out that i dont like semen ! lol this maybe weird but i hate how it feels and i cant stand it! it grosses me out! it bothers me if i feel it on me or my bed.. ! i dont know what to do.. i have an apointment with a pelvic specialist! but does anyone else have this? or any idea of what it maybe due too?
Re: No sex drive! Help
Have you had a complete physical and medical evaluation?
If you're taking certain medications, your libido can be knocked out of kilter. YOur doc can then prescribe an alternative med that won't kill your sex drive.
Other physical problems can later your libido: hormone deficiencies and endocrine problems, such as hyper- or hypothyroidism, will do it.
I also suggest you get a second, and if needed, a third opinion from an obgyn. (If you've switched positions and the pain is still there, something else may be happening -- maybe you have fibroids or another problem)
If you're not crazy about semen, have him wear a condom. (and it's a natural body secretion; perhaps you were brought up in a home where you were taught certain things were dirty and repulsive?)