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Perspective
I need it.
I just yelled at my husband for a couple asshat comments that his family made. FTR, I apologized since I'm not really mad at him, just with the situation. And the fact that he never takes up for me but that's another day.
Anyway, inlaws (and grandma) are at our house today to see N. I went home for lunch and they were asking me when I was going to bring N to their house because "there are SO MANY people that haven't seen her yet!" I know that this is stemming from the fact that last weekend I went to see my grandparents with N (you know, the one that just had surgery & was diagnosed with cancer) and about a month ago I took N to see my great-grandma (who is 96).
It just really upset me. It's not that I'm purposely keeping N from anyone but my time with her is precious! I work all week long and I really look forward to weekends with my girl. And on the rare occasion when my husband is off of work for the entire weekend, we like to spend time as a family. And yes, I could take her to my inlaws one day when he is working but honestly, I don't like going over there without him.
Is that so wrong of me to be a little bit selfish right now? I just think that if ALL these people (who a) don't have cancer & b) are all under the age of 96) really want to see N, they can get in their cars and come see her over here.
I need someone to play devil's advocate.
Re: Perspective
I see both sides also. I can understand them wanting you to bring N over so they can show her off to people, especially since some people just don't leave their home turf.
Being from "out of town" it often p*sses me off that I drive all over creation to attend people's events but yet nobody can come up here for stuff for us because it's "just too far." Road goes both ways people, it's not like I ENJOY the drive.
So, I get both sides. I say just suck it up one day and go, it's only a day and you have a failsafe excuse to leave. You can make up all sorts of excuses when babies are involved. But make sure your DH goes too, that's just crazy for you to have to go visit his peeps without him. THAT I wouldn't do.
This is legal advice. Circa 2011
I KNOW! Drives me nuts too...
Now that I know how they feel, we will more than likely plan a day to go the next time MrShoe is off. It's really not a big deal, I'm just annoyed with the whole situation. There's more than I'm telling here but I didn't want to bore you all.
Hugs, kisses & cupcakes to you all!