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Wedding/SIL F/U
So my weekend was interesting. I will condense.
Matt talked to the groom of the wedding we're going to in a couple of weeks. It's fine with them if we get a room on our own and Matt stays with me. Apparently the whole reason they did this was because a couple of the unmarried guys were trying to stay with their girlfriends, and the bride and groom don't believe in unmarried couples staying together. So, to prevent two unmarried couples from staying together, they split up everybody-- including the three MARRIED couples. This blows my mind. I get not letting it go down under your roof (or one you've paid for), but if adults want to go off and do their own thing on their own dime, I can't believe that you would go to such lengths to try to prevent it! So... that's resolved.
We got SIL moved back from practically freaking Indiana. She showed up to our place to leave an hour late, of course. I sat in the backseat on the 6-hour drive out, and Matt pretty much gave her a two-hour come-to-Jesus lecture. I don't think it will do any good, but at least we tried. I realized that we are really the closest thing she has to real parents-- her mom's a complete psychopath, and her dad feels so guilty about not being in the picture when they were kids that he just agrees with everything she says or does. She's never had anyone but Matt say "I love you, and that means that I need to tell you something you won't like" in her life.
I was pretty cool to her, but I did throw in my two cents and say that I didn't think it was a great idea to show up at her mom's doorstep, knowing that her mom thought she was moving back home, unload all of her crap there, and then take off to continue living with the aunt her mother hates. I can see MIL locking the doors and holding SIL's stuff hostage to try to get her way. SIL actually took my advice on that! Wonder of wonders.
In other news, I discovered that the reason the entire family hates the aunt and uncle that SIL lives with is because the uncle is a pedophile. Matt had somehow failed to mention this previously. Now I understand why he is always so adamant about us not going to visit people who live in the same small city we do.
I love my new family!
Re: Wedding/SIL F/U
I'm glad everything worked out!
interesting new family!!!!!!!!!!!!! hopefully they can resolve some of their issues!
glad to hear the wedding situation was taken care of!!!!!!!!!!!!
The wedding thing.... that's complete BS. Even if you don't believe in sleeping together while unmarried, there is no way I would force that on my wedding GUESTS. Who cares? I would never tell someone "Hey, sorry, but for my wedding, you're not allowed to share a room with your girlfriend." It's not their place to tell the guys who they can and can't share a room with. I'd tell them to suck it.
This aunt that SIL is living with... is this the same one that kept buying you wedding presents (or am I confusing you with someone else?). Did SIL know that uncle was a pedophile prior to moving in?
Different aunt. MIL is one of 10 kids, and half of them don't talk to each other, so it gets confusing. Gift Auntie hosted the cookout we went to on Saturday night, and it was actually a rather pleasant experience.
According to Matt, the pedophilia incident went down about 12 years ago, so I'm assuming SIL is aware. I guess she figures even those people are better than her mom. Her two amazing brothers and a dad who tries don't seem to be enough to fill her need for family.
This makes me super sad
There is one hell of a lot of crazy contained in your post Kelly!
First of all, this couple that is getting married - what the eff? These are exactly the kind of people that I can't stand and would never be friends with. I'm all for people who have different beliefs than I do, that's great...that's what makes the world go round. However, when you start to enforce those beliefs on the people around you, forcing them into doing things that they, as responsible, functioning adults, don't want to do? That's when I want to throat punch you.
As for your SIL, living with a pedophile? Come on. What is wrong with her?
PS, If he is a known pedophile, why isn't he in jail??
Yeah... I'm sure these two mean well and all, but it crossed way over the line in my mind. The groom was one of Matt's best friends in college, though, so Matt's willing to overlook a good bit. As long as I'm not being packed off to a storage unit like extra luggage, I'll bite my tongue (in public) and go along because I'm his wife. But he knows how I feel about it.
I'm going to support him, not them.
As to why the creepo isn't in jail, I'm not sure. Apparently he was trying to sleep with the babysitter. I'm guessing that it was one of those cases where everybody knew what happened but nobody actually pressed charges, or where nothing could be proved. Nobody really likes to talk about it.
What is wrong with SIL? A lot of things. I'm trying to not blame her too harshly, because she can hardly help but be messed up, but it's tough.
have to agree with jehawly on that couple! my god!!! I'm so glad you guys got that resolved!
I'm glad you got the wedding thing resolved, but geez...manipulating sleeping arrangements is going way too far.
And can I just say I'm glad I don't have your IL's? Even though I'm not all that fond of some of my own.