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Long ramblings
I don't really remember if I ever mentioned my exFIL in the past or not but here goes. Early last year he was released from prison after 1.5yrs for theft. He came to our house because all his relatives have passed away and MH is really the only family he has. He felt like a burden on us and didn't want to stay with us. We put him in a boarding house that you pay by the week. By weeks end he was back in jail where he has been for the past year. He is a good guy with a great heart. He just made some bad decisions after he got out of a horrible 15yr relationship with my MIL. MH is actually closer to him than his biological dad and his mom so he feels like he needs to take care of him because he was the only one who cared about MH when he was younger. While he was in jail 2 sisters died from drugs/alcohol and his grandma passed so there is no one left other than extended family that has nothing to do with him because of my MIL.
So anyways, he is being released on Monday and once again coming to our home. I trust him in our home and anything of value or importance is locked up anyways. I do not mind too much other than I think it's going to mess with plans MH and I have. He does have some sort of inheritance waiting on him but to be honest I don't think it's much. We don't want him taking the money and blowing it or my MIL somehow sinking her claws into it. As long as he doesn't get involved with the bad crowd he will be ok because he is easily influenced by others. I just hope we can help him get some sort of job, which will be hard enough and keep him away from bad influences. MH and I were supposed to be going to Atlanta in a few weeks and I'm not sure we will be able to go now which really bums me. I've been looking forward to it all summer. We would take him with us but he can't leave because of probation. I just know it's going to be like having a big kid. There's no real point to this post I am just rambling.
Started TTC 11/07
BFP 09/24/08
Miscarriage 09/30/08
First cycle of clomid August 09
Second cycle of clomid September 09
BFP 09/30/09
Miscarriage 10/10/09
Three more rounds of clomid and no success
Diagnosed with Unexplained Infertility
Abnormal Bleeding for 3 months resulted in D&C but results were normal
November 2010 100mg clomid but didn't respond
December 2010 forced break for a cyst
February 2011 150mg clomid but still no response
March 2011 250mg clomid and responded! Ovidrel trigger shot and IUI on March 31 Beta #1 11dpo: 27 Beta #2 15dpo: 85 Beta #3 18dpo 276
Re: Long ramblings
I wonder if the money can be put into some sort of trust fund, I know you said it's not a lot but it's better than him blowing it.
I'm sorry you can't go on your trip, maybe you guys can do something closer to home for a much needed break?
I hope his probation officer is able to help him find a job. This is going to sound weird but there is a Wendy's near where I live that hires non violent offenders who are on probation. I bet there is probably somewhere near you (that you may not know about) that does the same.
I hope things work out for him this time. I know this is hard on everyone.
He would have had a very large inheritance but my MIL squandered that away years ago before his grandma wised up and quit giving him "advances" on his inheritance.
Mandy, there is a rehabilitation office sort of thing right by the courthouse that helps people who just got out to get things they need. He worked construction all his life but there are no construction companies that are hiring. I'd forgotten about that office until you mentioned the probation officer and that reminded me of it. We had a tenant go to jail for a week or something and I remember that office paying her rent for that month.