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can i have a pity party for myself for a minute
i'm a wreck, you all know we have always had major sleep problems with davis since he was born, i feel like i've gone 16 months with little to no sleep at night, it is wearing on me big time and i'm just not sure i can take it anymore, i cannot even let him CIO because he can escape the crib, my cousin did tell me i can borrow her crib tent though
i just feel like i'm so alone, everyone else has kids that sleep but me, i feel like i must be doing something wrong, he is the reason we are not having more kids, the sleep issues have done us both in, there is just no way, i'm lucky to even function in my daily life, it takes all i can to just do laundry and clean the house, i'm so behind on all the other stuff it isn't even funny
anyways, i'm just having a horrible day today because the sleep issues are back to where they were, up several times a night, it is just out of control and i feel like i cannot even bring it up to the doctor anymore because it is just silly, nothing works
then i feel bad for complaining about him not sleeping because i should feel lucky to have a child that is otherwise healthy, like when i read the stories about kids with cancer and young women dying from illnesses, ugh, okay, i'm done
thanks for listening
Birth - 7 lbs. 7 oz., 20 inches
1 Month - 9 lbs., 5 oz, 21 inches
2 Months - 11 lbs., 4.5 oz, 23 inches
4 Months - 14 lbs, 1 oz, 26.5 inches
6 months - 16 lbs, 1 oz, 28.75 inches
9 months - 18 lbs, 6 oz, 29.25 inches
1 Year - 21 lbs, 6 oz, 31 inches
2 Years - 28 lbs., 37 inches
Re: can i have a pity party for myself for a minute
Every kid has their own issue (I think so anyway!). Davis doesn't sleep. Skyler refuses to potty train, I'm sure Charli will come up with something in time. It's ok to feel frustrated and to complain about it.
I don't really have any sleep advice but I hope that it gets easier for you. Have you thought about putting him in a toddler bed? He could play in his room and then go to sleep rather than sitting in a crib and crying?
I can't even imagine how exhausting and frustrating that must be!
I do like Tami's suggestion of moving to a toddler bed though. As long as his room is baby-proofed, then he should be fine to play around a little in there rather than crying because he's stuck in his crib. I also wouldn't hesitate to talk to the doctor again. There has to be SOMETHING else to try, and I'm sure the doc will understand your concern!
I hope it gets better for you soon!!!
Oh Jill you aren't alone. Jeff was a horrible sleeper until he hit 18 months and I finally hit my limit, especially since I was needing to be able to function for work. I didn't want to do CIO, but I was done and tired. Jeff never climbed out of his crib, but I will tell you what we did.
I ran a floor fan in the hallway so it would drown out the noise from him screaming and I had his door shut. If Davis can open the door, what about putting gates in front of it to lock him in. Harsh maybe, but he'll have to stay in his room...I've known lots of families who have done this. And then you just go from there.
We had friends who their youngest of 6 was such a horrible sleeper that they put him in a pac-n-play in their basement, it was finished, and she'd shut the door. A couple of nights of screaming all night and he started sleeping through the night.
I would seriously consider moving him out of a crib and into a toddler bed or a mattress on the floor. That way, if he wakes up and lets himself out he can put himself back in bed. Sammy moved into a toddler bed just fine around Ds age. Once he figured out how to open the door, I started gating it.
But yeah, I would move him into his big boy bed and start ignoring all the screaming. After a couple of nights he SHOULD give it up.