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Afraid of being on top

beth5507beth5507
in Sex & Romance

Ok....sorry if this is too much information for anyone, but I would really appriciate some advice here....

 

Early in our sex life, I was on top and I must have been a little too into the moment, because I hurt my husband.  Now, I am totally paranoid that I'm going to bend him or hurt him.  I know he loves me being on top, and I want to do that for him, but I'm so paranoid!

 

Any advice?

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Re: Afraid of being on top

  • CactusGirlCactusGirl
    Just take it slow.
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  • PixieChinchillaPixieChinchilla member
    Fourth Anniversary 500 Comments 5 Love Its
    I agree with PP. Take it slow until you can get more comfortable with it again. It's totally normal to be worried after you've hurt him, but if you can work on keeping the communication throughout and not getting so into it that you cause pain, you should be good to go.
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  • GirlsOwnLoveGirlsOwnLove
    I'm sure he misses you being on top, haha! Go for it. Put any paranoid thoughts behind you, and like PP's said, take it slow. He'll love it.
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  • oldbugleoldbugle member
    Fifth Anniversary 100 Comments First Answer 5 Love Its
    If you "hurt" him because he popped out on your up-stroke and when your body came down you bent or pulled his shaft then get him to keep his hand loosely around the base of his penis so that it won't come out of you until you both get your confidence back.
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  • BigTrevBigTrev
    have you talked to him about it? Maybe it would help if he assured you that he's okay, doesn't hold resentment toward you, and actually really likes it when you are on top!
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  • beth5507beth5507

    Oh yeah....we've talked it out.  We aren't one of those couples that doesn't talk about sex.  We tell each other what we want.

     

    But.....the advice worked girls.....success!

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  • future_harmeyerfuture_harmeyer
    I love being on top. Its the best O I can get. Yes its slipped before and hurt him. Take it slow and control your movements (dont over do it with long, drawn out motions).
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  • ErinnW.ErinnW.
    I don't normally post on the boards but I have to say, I love being on top, and yes, I have hurt my FI before, but he loves it and is very willing to risk the potential accident. FWIW, he has hurt me before too, so we are even. Sex can be dangerous lol...
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