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Is this normal????
I have been married for almost 10 years. My problem is that I am not that into having sex with my husband, the reason for that is because when my husband gets horny, his penis gets "wet" and its starts dripping something and I don't like the taste of it, so I don't like to perform oral sex on him because of that. Or when he is touching me, I hate to feel the drips from his penis on my body - I hate it and I don't know what to do about it.
I love my husband very much, but because of that reason, I just hate having sex with him. Also, his penis is "chubby" and it doesn't matter how wet I am, it always hurts when we have intercourse.
Help!!!!!
Re: Is this normal????
It doesn't taste like normal semen?
Perhaps he's got an infection; he needs to see a doc. His preejaculate shouldn't have an abnormal taste to it.
Sit down with him and have a talk and make sure that you preface it with how concerned you are about his overall health -- make sure you tell him that the penis is the dipstick to a man's health.
Say something like, "I love being with you and I love having sex with you and I am concerned about your health. I think there's a slight problem" and then explain what you told us.
When it comes to one's health, pride and embarrasment shouldn't get in the way.
Good luck with this one; this can be touchy indeed.
As for the other issue, use lots of lube and go slow.
Is this a new thing?
Was he your first?
I think this sounds like pre-ejaculate. It is normal. Most men do this. Some men have more than others. One of my friends came to me with the same issue. She had only had one other partner before her H and she never notice him doing this. She thought it was gross and there was something wrong with him. I had to explain it to her. It doesn' bother her any more. Personally, I think it's hot. I know my H is enjoying himself. What your H eats could also effect how he tastes. Feed him strawberries and pineapple.
As far as him being "chuby," you may need to use a different type of lube. Are you using lube at all or just relying on your natural lubrication? Try using a good lube and see if that helps.
Wow, so you have heard of this before. I thought I was alone when it came to this subject. The problem with my H is that even if we are only kissing, if he gets horny his underwear will get wet from his "dripping".
He is the second men in my life and the person before him did not do this.
I am not using any lube at all, I am just relying on my natural lubrication. But it doesn't matter how wet I am, it always hurts.
Let me tell you that you are definitely not alone... I never thought about whether this happened to other men..
Well this happend to mine. at first, I must admit that I would not give him BJ's because I just found it gross... however I loved that fact that he would get all wet by me just kissing him.. I also didnt want the drip on my body, i use to HATE it and didnt want him near me..
BUT then I got to thinking, if I dont satisfy/please my DH what if... he goes outside of our marriage to get satisfaction??? I sure as hell didnt like that thought...
so... I mustered up the courage to give him a BJ, I LOVED it that HE loved it and since then I do it often, I will tell you that as you have more sexual contact with him this dripping will go away becase my DH hargly ever drips now... I dont know if this is the case with ever man but with my DH the more often we had sex the less he dripped..
my advise to you is to get over it, seriously... this can affect your marriage, I mean you not wanting him to touch you or to have sex? (been there) trust me I lived it and things are great... we have sex 5-6 times a week as before it was like once a week...
things will get better...
All normal healthy men have a secretion as they become aroused and erect,.......it's NORMAL and is actually due to 'Cowpers gland secretion'. This is the male counterpart of a woman getting wet from her Bartholin glands......... The male secretion cleans the uretha to prepare for the semen to pass and also offers some lubrication around the glans penis to aid penetration...(it can also contain some live and active sperms so contraceptive needs must be remembered)
......There's NOTHING wrong with this man and he does NOT need to see a doctor, he needs for his wife to read a book about sex......