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I cant seem to get the hand of "on top"
I rarely have the big O though penetration but though outside stimulation. I always here you ladies say that being on top always gets you off and I want that.
The problem is that FI is average sized which is fine with me, but he doesn't stay hard. He'll be hard at the beginning with oral and the beginning of sex but one my juices start flowing his penis then becomes semi erect and when I want to climb on top he is always slipping and sliding and I cant really ride him cause he just pops out like nothing, Every.single.time....we can do other positions like missionary and doggie and I do feel him but me on top does not work. I even tried not "jump" but grinding but to no avail...
He is a bigger guy 6'1" and on the chunky side and does get sweaty/tired doing all the work and poor guy has a bad back and him doing all the work doesn't seem fair sometimes.
Any advice? tips would be greatly appreciated....
Re: I cant seem to get the hand of "on top"
Oh he did lose weight, about 70 lbs before we met 3 years ago and another 15 lbs within the three...he's about 220, so not so big. I just feel bad cause he's doing all the work for about 45 min to an hour and Id like to help somehow and surprise him....
Holy crap! Sex (not including foreplay?) takes 45 minutes to an hour every time?! I'm still saying that he's getting fatigued and if he needs to last that long he needs to get into better shape. Getting in better shape doesn't necessarily mean he needs to lose more weight but he needs to get into better cardiovascular shape which will give him the physical endurance he needs to not get fatigued after 45-60 minutes of physical activity.
How does this address the erection loss problem?
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I'm a little slow this morning, so bear with me here...I'm confused, does he have no problem staying hard when you have sex in other positions? Or is it just that he can manage to stay inside you then, even semi erect?
If that's the case, he needs to see a doctor about his erection issues and rule out anything serious.
You know what, I have been thinking about a penis ring for him...He's not opposed to it...
No, I did word it weird. When we have sex in any other positions his semi erect penis does hit my spot but not like I would like. Its like he goes through bouts of being hard and not. But he doesnt go fully limp if that makes sense. Its that when I get on top gravity doesnt help the situation....
My body is sensitive and I need to start slow and missionary works best for this and he is real cautious not to hurt me and I wanna be a lil worked up so I can go to town when I ride him if you KWIM?
Definitely try a c*ck ring. They're designed to solve this exact problem. Just make sure he doesn't leave it on for more than 20 minutes; it's not healthy to keep the blood trapped in one area of the body for too long.
If he doesn't have as much of an issue staying erect in other positions, but you want to take on some of the work, you have some options... try doggie style, but have him stay still while you rock back and forth against him.
If the c*ck ring solves the him-staying-hard-while-you're-on-top problem, try using a vibrator on yourself (or having him use it on you) while you're on top of him. I am the same way you are... I am much more prone to clitoral orgasms than penetrative ones, but doing this allows me to ramp up the good feeling of the penetration and go over the edge. You can also get vibrating c*ck rings, but if they don't hit you in just the right spot, try a separate bullet vibrator.
I think this is normal for this position. My husband, who loved this position and would only have me on top if he could, still had erection issues this way. He was kind of smallish, but this position gave me the most stimulation.
My boyfriend on the other hand, is quite gifted, but still can't maintain the erection in this position. I think guys need more of an in-and-out thing to keep the woody going, whereas being on top tends to be more of a grinding motion. Reverse cowgirl does make a difference for me, because it's more in and out and less grinding, if that makes sense. It's too bad, because this is pretty much the only way I can reach an orgasm through penetration. Luckily my boyfriend is really good with his hands.