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Mommy questions
No I am not preggo nor am I wanting to be anytime soon. I was just thinking and wondering a few things.
If you had to do anything different during your pregnancy what would that be?
What has been the hardest things about mommyhood?
Has there been anything that you found out that no one told you (like something you didn't know would happen or whatever)?
What is some advice that you would give to new mommies?
Re: Mommy questions
If you had to do anything different during your pregnancy what would that be?
I would have exercised more. And I would not have stressed so much about viability in the first trimester.
What has been the hardest things about mommyhood?
Just realizing that it's not about you anymore. Yes, you know this going in, but actually LIVING it is a eye opener. I love B something fierce, but he is 24/7!
Has there been anything that you found out that no one told you (like something you didn't know would happen or whatever)?
The first two months are SO hard. Hormones, sleep depravation, constantly second guessing yourself, etc. At least that's how it was for me. No one ever told me that, I guess to spare me. I wish someone had. Maybe it's not that way for all new moms, but for me, it was miserable.
What is some advice that you would give to new mommies?
Sleep as much as you can before the baby comes. I know you can't bank it, but you can remember how good it felt at 3 am feedings.
Connect with your husband even more than you do now
Get in the best shape you can before you get pregnant.
You will not break or ruin the baby. Don't be afraid to tell people NO.
You are not a bad mother if you don't breast feed. You are also not a bad mother if you don't see rainbows and kittens when you first lay eyes on your child.
Birth plan? You can have one, but be ready to change it if you need to.
Let DH do stuff. He will not hurt the baby. As long as the baby is safe and healthy, let him do it HIS way.
That's all for now.
If you had to do anything different during your pregnancy what would that be?
eat better and excercise
What has been the hardest things about mommyhood?
for me it was just the colicky stage trying to figure out if it was the formula or what. that and even though i dont mind working it still sucks to leave him every morning and miss his smiley face all day
Has there been anything that you found out that no one told you (like something you didn't know would happen or whatever)?
Not so much with the baby or mommyhood itself but i wish someone told me how i would feel post labor...for some crazy reason i thought i'd bounce back sooner lol afterward my boobs hurt like crazy when my milk came in, my stitches itched and i was a mess (physically and emotionally)
What is some advice that you would give to new mommies?
let people help you those first few weeks! let them cook dinner, help clean your house, whatever they want to help with, because in a few weeks no one gives a crap if you ate or your house is clean they just want that baby!
and also ditto all of what elisa said!
I agree with a lot of what Elisa said - right now I'm struggling to get back into shape. Hell, I'm struggling to get back into what passed as a shape before I had Katie. We are getting closer and closer to thinking about #2, and I don't want to have #2 when I'm still carrying around weight from #1. I will definitely try to exercise more (some) when I'm pregnant w/ #2 - I'm not going to do it for the baby, I'm going to do it for me.
As far as what no one told me... holy crap, the uncontrollable emotions. I think I was pretty calm and collected during my pregnancy - I think I had very few wild mood swings, but after K was born, I was a crazy person. I was not prepared for that, and not being in control of my emotions and knowing they were irrational was scary for me. Also, don't be afraid to seek help if you think you have post-partum depression. It doesn't make you weak or a bad mom. It's not something you can control.
Advice for new mommies - the first few weeks are HARD. It's all about survival. Just do what you have to do - let the housework go for a bit, eat PB&J and pizza, sleep when you can, just do what you can to enjoy your baby and get some rest. It goes by too fast.
If you had to do anything different during your pregnancy what would that be?
I would have relaxed more. i tried to not let my pregnancy "hold me back" from anything, i totally overcommitted and i think i pushed myself too much. i didn't get to sit around and rub my belly as much as i would have liked
What has been the hardest things about mommyhood?
i hate working, wish i could be with josie all day, but at least I'm with her the majority of the time. i also hate how quickly she is growing up. i feel like the time clock of life is running so fast, i wish i could just pause it for a couple of years!
breastfeeding is a lot of work too. i HATE pumping and for some reason it takes me so much longer to pump (i was away this weekend with 2 friends who were pumping too, and what they got in 10 minutes took me 30 minutes to do).
Has there been anything that you found out that no one told you (like something you didn't know would happen or whatever)?
i thought my body would bounce back more quickly, though i'm not doing much to help it along. i also didn't realize i would bleed so long after a c section or that josie having acne for a month was normal.
What is some advice that you would give to new mommies?
make time for your husband, it will benefit both of you!
start making routines, not necessarily schedules, but i felt that having a routine helped us a lot.
also, don't listen to everyone, at the end of the day its your baby and you will do whats best. it is crazy how people have such strong opinions about what is best for your baby. and one thing may work for someone else's baby but not yours. follow your gut!