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How do you refer to your ILs?

I was watching an episode of "Everybody Loves Raymond" and this came up. How do you refer to your ILs? Also, how does your husband refer to your parents?

As in, do you refer to your MIL as "Mrs. Name" or "First Name" or "Mom"? 

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Re: How do you refer to your ILs?

  • I personally refer to my ILs in different ways. If I am talking to anyone such as dh I say "your mom" if I am talking to her I refer to her as "first name." Dh calls my mom "mom" and my dad by his first name.
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  • We each call the other's parents by their first names.
  • By their first name.  My soon to be ex SIL (yay!) calls my FIL dad and it makes me want to vomit.
  • I just call MIL by her first name (FIL is deceased), and DH calls my parents by their first name.  

    I know different people are accustomed to different things, but referring to IL's as "Mrs." and "Mr." seems so formal and uncomfortable to me.
  • I call the in-laws by their first names. DH does the same with my parents.

  • I call them by their first name. I have a mom, don't need another. But, in mixed company I'll call them H's parents.
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  • We call them by their first names. Mr. and Mrs. is too formal and Mom and Dad is a little too informal. We may call each others parents that in the future, but we've only been married 10 months. It seems strange to call them mom or dad.
  • imageSteven&Jamie:
    I just call MIL by her first name (FIL is deceased), and DH calls my parents by their first name.  

    I know different people are accustomed to different things, but referring to IL's as "Mrs." and "Mr." seems so formal and uncomfortable to me.

    I find the "Mr" and "Mrs" particularly odd because it's not like I'm the 15 year old girlfriend---I'm an adult woman. I don't actually call anyone "Mr" or "Mrs"

  • We refer to each other's family members by their first names.  I don't get the whole "mom" and "dad" thing when they're really not your parents. 
  • imageamanjay:
    imageSteven&Jamie:
    I just call MIL by her first name (FIL is deceased), and DH calls my parents by their first name.  

    I know different people are accustomed to different things, but referring to IL's as "Mrs." and "Mr." seems so formal and uncomfortable to me.

    I find the "Mr" and "Mrs" particularly odd because it's not like I'm the 15 year old girlfriend---I'm an adult woman. I don't actually call anyone "Mr" or "Mrs"

    See, I agree with this too. I guess this is more of a "southern" thing as I have many friends that still call their spouses parents "Mr. and Mrs." 

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  • First names here, too.

    Sometimes H's dad is referred to in conversation as "sperm donor", but only to certain people. 

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  • imageBoyMom21:

    First names here, too.

    Sometimes H's dad is referred to in conversation as "sperm donor", but only to certain people. 

    Hmmm...maybe T and I have the same dad, mine is referred to as biological father, ha.
  • imageprettygirl06:
    imageamanjay:
    imageSteven&Jamie:
    I just call MIL by her first name (FIL is deceased), and DH calls my parents by their first name.  

    I know different people are accustomed to different things, but referring to IL's as "Mrs." and "Mr." seems so formal and uncomfortable to me.

    I find the "Mr" and "Mrs" particularly odd because it's not like I'm the 15 year old girlfriend---I'm an adult woman. I don't actually call anyone "Mr" or "Mrs"

    See, I agree with this too. I guess this is more of a "southern" thing as I have many friends that still call their spouses parents "Mr. and Mrs." 

    Maybe so.  I know that I wouldn't feel like part of the family if I did the "Mrs./Mr." thing, it's just much more natural for me to call MIL by her first name.
  • My ILs are known as Mr. and Mrs. Satan. Which I guess makes DH the spawn of them? j/k

    DH calls my mom "Mom" and my dad by his first name.  

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  • The ILs told me to call them by their first names, and my parents told DH the same thing. In reality, we still usually refer to them as "your mom/dad," especially since we both live out of our home states and see our ILs once (maybe twice) a year and haven't gotten much chance to practice using their names.
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  • I refer to them by their names. H does the same for mine.
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  • DH refers to my parents by their names.
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  • I only refer to DH's parents by their first names. And DH refers to mine by the same.

    When we first started dating though I would call them Mr./Mrs. lastname because I wasn't sure if it was proper to call them by their first names. I guess since I was raised to know that it was not proper to refer to people older than you by their first names unless they have stated otherwise.

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  • We use their first names.
  • I use their first names in front of them but refer to them as DH's parents when talking to him. 

    He calls my mom "Mom" but he calls my dad by his first name.  Odd...

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