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Giselle: her view on breastfeeding
What do you think?
Personally, I think everyone should try breastfeeding, but if it isn't your thing, it isn't your thing and sometimes people just simply cannot produce enough. I suppose you could go to a milk bank to get breastmilk for your child. I think Giselle is being ridiculous though.
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Birth - 7 lbs. 7 oz., 20 inches
1 Month - 9 lbs., 5 oz, 21 inches
2 Months - 11 lbs., 4.5 oz, 23 inches
4 Months - 14 lbs, 1 oz, 26.5 inches
6 months - 16 lbs, 1 oz, 28.75 inches
9 months - 18 lbs, 6 oz, 29.25 inches
1 Year - 21 lbs, 6 oz, 31 inches
2 Years - 28 lbs., 37 inches
Birth - 7 lbs. 7 oz., 20 inches
1 Month - 9 lbs., 5 oz, 21 inches
2 Months - 11 lbs., 4.5 oz, 23 inches
4 Months - 14 lbs, 1 oz, 26.5 inches
6 months - 16 lbs, 1 oz, 28.75 inches
9 months - 18 lbs, 6 oz, 29.25 inches
1 Year - 21 lbs, 6 oz, 31 inches
2 Years - 28 lbs., 37 inches
Re: Giselle: her view on breastfeeding
This is exactly how I feel about the subject. I judge people who aren't even willing to try. I do think Giselle is way over the top with what she said, though. Even I wouldn't go that far.
I do like the point she made here, though: "Some people here (in the US) think they don't have to breastfeed, and I think 'Are you going to give chemical food to your child when they are so little?'"
If you're able to, why wouldn't you want to at least try? This was actually the topic of my blog today IHO World Breastfeeding Week.
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2012 Races Heart Half Marathon 3.18.2012 - 1:51:01 (PR)
Flying Pig Marathon 5.6.12 - 3:50:28 (PR)
Leadville Trail Marathon 6.30.12 - 7:32:23 (not a typo)
Esri 5K 7.25.12 - 21:57 (PR)
Ditto all of this.
If it wasn't for the lovely Bump I wouldn't have beat myself up so much over quitting BF'ing.
My motto: "just feed your baby"
I feel like Giselle is being very judgy, just because she had a great breastfeeding experience she is now the authority. She needs to go back to bikini modeling. ha Just like people who give birth without drugs, why wouldn't everyone do it?? LOL
Wow yeah, that's pretty extreme.
Clearly I'm not a mother, but I agree that I think every woman should at least try. Why would women be made to produce milk if it wasn't the best thing for babies, ya know?
I have a friend who completely refused to even try BF because she said her boobs were a sexual/pleasurable thing for her and she felt as though she'd never feel the same about them if she BF. I bit my tongue, but secretly judged her for being so selfish and silly.
I just don't understand why someone wouldn't want to at least TRY to provide their child with the best nutrition possible. Obviously women who try and decide it isn't for them are a special case, I give them kudos for even making the attempt.
My mom smoked while she was pregnant with me, does that mean it's ok because I turned out fine? If there weren't overwhelming amounts of data on the benefits of breastmilk then you would have an argument that I could get on board with, but the data exist, so I disagree with your viewpoint.
Furthermore, this discussion is in no way limited to the nest/bump. Women talk about this in all kinds of forums. We had a BFing group at work, my non-nest/bump friends with and without kids talk about it, and it's a public health issue that's discussed in the media regularly. Parents do care about it.
Baby GIRL EDD 5.21.13
My Blog | My Chart
2012 Races Heart Half Marathon 3.18.2012 - 1:51:01 (PR)
Flying Pig Marathon 5.6.12 - 3:50:28 (PR)
Leadville Trail Marathon 6.30.12 - 7:32:23 (not a typo)
Esri 5K 7.25.12 - 21:57 (PR)
I do agree with most of what Rachel said, but I still think everyone should give it a shot. You might surprise yourself. I don't think people should judge people who don't breastfeed whether they try or not, it is a personal decision. I also don't think people should ask, why are you not breastfeeding?? again, none of their business. Yes, the data is out there that breastfeeding is best, but formula is 2nd best and if that is what someone wants to do I'm not going to judge them for it.
It is worth trying though, even if it is just one time in the hospital or for a few weeks.
I didn't want this to turn into a breastfeeding debate, everyone has their own opinions on the matter and I wasn't trying to start one. I just thought what Giselle said was over the top and wanted to post it.
I agree with the try thing too. I wanted to BF mostly b/c of the bond that it allowed me to have with Alex. The "sexual" aspect of my boobs went out the window the minute he was born and I was completely fine with that for that time. I As my Stepmom says too, she was always as calm as a Hindu Cow while nursing and that is how I felt.
I think background has some things to do with it too. The nest and some other moms did educate me on it, but my Mom, MIL, Grandma were all so bewildered by the whole concept. If I had just talked to them, I probably wouldn't have even tried.
I wish like helll that I had been able to BF, it was an absolute no no for me. I couldnt even get to the point of letting my milk come in. I beat myself up about it so much, despite every other thing I could have let myself get down about in Monks early life, it was BFing that I regret the most. I just wish the pressure to BF wasnt so strong. I don't understand why people wouldn't at least try it. If its not for you, or you have problems then by all means get some formula with the quickness...At the heart of the discussion I am pro feed your baby.
"Just like people who give birth without drugs, why wouldn't everyone do it?? LOL"
Ohh yea that's another one - I am the "bring on the epi" girl! I told my H he better have an anasteologist on call for me!
I am sorry, but people who judge on this subject are going to get a shut the eff up from me. Esp. if they say it to me or ask why I will not do it. It's none of their business. Is formula going to harm my child? NO. If I am not harming my child then it's no one's business. If I harm my child then they have the right to judge or say something - and at no other time. And I will not be nice to people "offering their opinion." It's an overblown debate.
Feed your kid. Be nice to your kid. Interact and teach your kid life necessities. Be there. These are the things that should be talked about, not OMG YOU DON'T BF - you are just going to parenting hell! Overblown subject and I am done ranting now.
It isn't a matter of whether or not formula was going to harm my child, it was a matter of giving my child the best available care to the best of my ability. Noshit I would have switched to formula if BFing didn't work out, but the best option was the first option in my mind. It isn't an overblown debate, in most countries it's just a foregone conclusion that women are going to breastfeed. The US has one of the lowest breastfeeding rates in the world. The animosity toward it isn't even an issue in most other countries.
Given any other topic people go with the best option for their children, and I just don't see how this is any different.
Baby GIRL EDD 5.21.13
My Blog | My Chart
2012 Races Heart Half Marathon 3.18.2012 - 1:51:01 (PR)
Flying Pig Marathon 5.6.12 - 3:50:28 (PR)
Leadville Trail Marathon 6.30.12 - 7:32:23 (not a typo)
Esri 5K 7.25.12 - 21:57 (PR)
I didn't read the article but I definitely think everyone woman should at least TRY it ... and give it a real try ... not for like two days before your milk even fully comes in. I tried with both of the girls ... and I had to EP for both of them. Skyler was a preemie and oddly enough couldn't tolerate the BM so she was on a special formula. Charli wouldn't latch on and pumping at school was extremely difficult so I ended up having to stop. I am most definitely hoping that this baby has no BFing issues because it's my first choice for feeding. And my school schedule is more felxible this semester so I know I'll be able to pump.
Kinda rambled there but .... I don't understand why you wouldn't at least try it.
Kudos to you for sticking up for yourself and for others who don't want to try it or who don't breastfeed. I pumped while A was in the NICU and breastfeed her when we were there, towards the end of her stay there. I also breastfeed her when she came home. After having A on my boobs, they would no longer respond to the pump. I had to go back to work, so she got what was left of my frozen supply and then went on formula. It sounds like some people on bump/nest would say I should have quit my job to give her what is best, but I really don't care what people think about me.. so judge away. I actually would have liked to have quit my job to stay home with A, as I feel care from a Parent is better then daycare, but I wasn't able to do so. I do what is best for my daughter and my family and if someone doesn't like it, too darn bad. As long as a child is fed and taken care of properly, that should be the main concern. I don't understand how people get all in a huff and judgey over breastfeeding (both breastfeeding (mom, mil & sister all had problem with me doing it) and not breastfeeding) when there are kids starving in this world, such a shame.
I am pro breastfeeding, I believe that it really is best and that's what I plan to do for my child. But to be honest, I don't really care what anyone else feeds thier kid, as long as you're not one of the morons filling up a bottle for a 6 mo. old with diet coke.