Sex after baby

Zodidahl · July 2010

Its been 8 months since our little guy was born and well we have probably been intimate (sexually) about a total of 4 times. Its really irritating because we are both very sexual beings and before baby we couldn't get enough of each other. It seems like when he wants to have sex these days I feel icky or am tired and when I am totally in the mood he just isn't feeling it.

Any advice on what I can do to spark things up? Our 1 year anniversay is coming up and we are supposed to spend the weekend in Vegas. I'm dreading going out there and not having any intimacy at all. What can I do?

bhrett · July 2010

Sorry for stating what everyone else behind me will probably say, but since you're a newbie I'll say it

Just do it anyway!! Don't you find that when you aren't in the mood and you just go with the flow you get in the mood? I definitely agree with this. I hope that helps you!

Honeydewchestnut · July 2010

I don't have children, so I don't feel like I can accurately answer this, but I would suggest taking your full name out of your siggy. There are some crazy, crazy people out there

SuMmErKuTiE · July 2010

bhrett:
Sorry for stating what everyone else behind me will probably say, but since you're a newbie I'll say it Just do it anyway!! Don't you find that when you aren't in the mood and you just go with the flow you get in the mood? I definitely agree with this. I hope that helps you!

This exactly! DH is always pushing for it every night and I usually feel exhausted and not in the mood, but I almost never deny him and I never regret it. It's amazing how quickly your mood will change.

Happy anniversary! A weekend away is what you guys need, GL! Just remember what bhrett and I mentioned, even if you're exhausted (because you will be exhausted in Vegas) or don't feel right, just do it anyway and you will be so happy you did and that should set the pace for when you get back home too.

Junebride2be2 · July 2010

I know exactly how you feel; I am currently pg with our 3rd due in September. Are you breastfeeding at all? I've found in my experience that my libido just takes a nose dive when I'm nursing, not to mention being sleep deprived, being a new parent, etc....I don't have any suggestions, but I can relate.

iheartfriedmacs · August 2010

how often do you feel in the mood vs. when he does? sounds like something you both need to sit and chat about

aoife o · August 2010

i no the feeling, very fustrating. im currently 5months pregnant so at the start i had really bad morning sickness all day evryday.now i have stoped working so he is working more now n tryin to get the house in order for baby. he wont let me do much cos im pregnant so he does alot of the heavy work. so as u can imagine, he is always tired, always and when ur pregnant, ur energy isn the same either. so we r always on differant times when we want it. and wat annoys me is that after the ultrasound he went of havin sex cos he was scared of hurting the baby, which took me forever to convince him it wouldn. so i feel ur pain, i also dnt really no wat to do, cos one im tired of always being the one to start it and two i no hes tired alot of the time so i dnt want b taking the last of his energy. im lucky to get it once a week n we r both very sexual people.

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