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Marriage Observation

So I have been married for almost two months and something little I noticed is the that things that used to not brother me do now.

I mean my DH has a habit of leaving little clusters of "stuff" around the house. Things like a little stack of tools on the kitchen island for a week. Well this never used to brother and its does now. I mean it doesn't get my blood boiling or cause me to say or doing anything naggy or snarky I guess I just notice them more now. So I was thinking about this and wondering wtf, why does this brother me now. Aha ... its because I realize I married to those little clusters of crap now.

I thought this was interesting and how marriage can change little things like that.

Do you have any similiar experiences about this?

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Re: Marriage Observation

  • Maybe part of why it never bothered you before was because you were preoccupied with planning the wedding and honeymoon, etc. I know that was true for me. 7 years later and I have learned not to sweat about piles of paper (that's DH's vice also). I just bought him a nice little basket...with a lid and I dump it all in there when I get sick of looking at it. lol
  • Thats a good point. I am alot more focused on taking care of our house now as before I was so busy with renovations and then wedding/honeymoon planning. We are both pretty easy going so there is not much the other does that gets on our nerves.

    I just thought this change was interesting. I have to say though we are both alot more attentive to one another needs/wants now. I am sure thats called the honeymoon stage though ......

     

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  • I know this isn't quite the same, because DH and I just moved in together, but I feel the same way.  I used to spend a lot of time at his place before we got married (almost every weekend for 10 years), and hardly noticed the things that really annoy me now.

    I chalk it all up to not having to live with it every day of my life, like I do now.  We are learning to live with each other though, and it is getting easier.

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  • My DH sounds very similar to yours, we sat down and talked about what I really disliked when he did it. Usually after I had picked it up etc. Then I would tell him that it would really be appreciated if he picked up after himself, because it just makes twice as much work if it has to be done later. I'm happy to be able to say that he is doing a lot better now. So maybe that is what you need to try. Remember it is a team effort and he deserves to know if it upsets you, just remember to stay calm when you discuss it. GL!
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