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NER vent: I really dislike my MIL right now
This might be long, but I need to talk to someone about it or I might lose it.?
I think I've mentioned on here before that DH was for the most part raised by his grandparents.
We got a call last night from my mom telling us that MIL had called her because "we don't ever call MIL" (bull) and MIL needed to get ahold of us to tell us that DH's Grandmother is in the ICU. ?She has our number, but didn't bother to call DH herself. ?We have a U.S. telephone number through Skype, so it wouldn't have even cost her anything to call.
DH then called MIL to ask what is going on with GMIL. ?She tells him that GMIL is in the ICU (which we already knew from my mom) but won't give DH any more info on GMIL. ?Instead, she?tells DH that she went to visit GMIL and "finally told her exactly what she thinks of her". ?Basically, MIL told GMIL that she hates her and listed a laundry list of problems she has with her.
DH then called his cousin to get information about GMIL, since MIL gave him no information. ?The Cousin tells DH that the doctors think GMIL has an obstructed bowel, and since she's 92 they can't do anything for her but make her comfortable. ?This is probably the end.
So, MIL's mother, the woman who raised her son for her, is dying. ?DH is crushed. ?GMIL was the mother that MIL never was to him. ?Instead of caring about her dying mother or her son who feels awful for not being able to be there right now, MIL "has to make sure GMIL knows that [she] hates her" while at the same time giving her son a huge guilt trip for not being there for MIL right now with "all that she's going through right now".
The only person she cares about is herself. ?Everything has to be about her. ?I hate seeing the way she treats her son. ?He deserves so much better.
Re: NER vent: I really dislike my MIL right now
First, I am so sorry to her about your GMIL ((big hugs))) to you and Mr. Katie_F.
Your MIL sounds like a real peach. I agree with Jessa that your Dh was very lucky to have been raised by his Grandma and not his mother. ?
I'm so sorry! How is YH doing?
I hope he can get back to visit her.
DH's cousin is keeping him apprised of the situation. ?She's supposed to let him know when it gets close. ?Do airlines still give?bereavement?discounts?
As for MIL, DH swears he will never talk to her again if she doesn't apologize to GMIL.?
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I wish that were the case. ?We have Skype In, so we have a telephone number that she can call from a regular phone.
I'm so sorry to hear about your GMIL, and about your MIL's behavior. I know too well what it's like to have an awful MIL who treats her son poorly. I've found that the best way to handle things is to just be there for your H as much as you can (which I'm sure you are). You can't control how she behaves, and it does tend to make one feel powerless, and being supportive is the only thing you can control.
Good thoughts to your H & his grandmother.
I am so so sorry for you and your DH.?
I don't think airlines still have bereavement fares anymore (or if they do, they aren't actually much of a discount) but it might be different in Europe. It never hurts to ask. ?