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am I being unreasonable?
M's b-day was yesterday and we are having her party Saturday. When I told my sister when the party was, she said she was going OOT that weekend. I thought about changing the party so she could go, but we were going OOT the weekend before and the weekend after and I didn't want to do it that far ahead or that far after her birthday. I pretty much figured if it was really important that you are at your niece's first birthday party, they you don't make other plans for the weekend she turns one. While of course I would love for her to be there, it doesn't bother me that she won't be there for the party.
Apparently though she was pretty upset that I didn't reschedule the party for her, so we agreed that we could do a birthday celebration at my dads shop on her b-day. My sister and brother work for my dad and my mom and H work near there too. So, I baked cupcakes (and a cake for us to have that night), loaded the kids up, and spent 4 hours up there.
It was a lot of freaking work.
I told them ahead of time that if H wasn't there (he had 2 meetings Wed) that M wasn't eating cake. H wanted to see her eat cake for the first time and as her father I think he gets to. So, my mom couldn't get there until after H had to leave and my sister ended up leaving in a huff without even eating a flippin cupcake because she was mad that I guess she didn't get to see M eat cake.
So, part of me feels bad that my sister is upset and I want to call her and appologize, but part of me just feels like she is being silly. I mean as the kid's parents I feel like H and I are number one and we should get to see her firsts. Plus I feel like if it was that huge of a deal she would have not scheuled her trip for this weekend.
Re: am I being unreasonable?
I wouldn't apologize for anything. It sounds like you put a whole heck of a lot more effort in to pleasing her than I would have... If she can't respect your husband's desire to be present for your daughter's firsts, then that's not your problem. Sounds like she needs to put her big girl panties on and deal with it.
PS. I don't care how upset I am about something, I would NEVER walk out on a perfectly good cupcake. That's just crazy talk.
this all the way.
I would NOT appologize for anything! You loaded up your kids, cupcakes and cake out of respect for your sister; but your sister couldn't show you enough respect to stick around and see it. That was very disrespectful on your sisters part and if anyone deserves an apology it is YOU.
ETA-I am kind of a bitter biotch when it comes to my brother and sister so if my post comes across a little rude that is why.
No way...your sister is being completely unreasonable and selfish. This isn't her birthday or her kid's first birthday. It's M's day and as her parents you should not have to work her birthday around your sister's OOT weekend. Sorry...not gonna happen.
Oh and she has no reason to get upset that she didn't get to see M eat cake...she should have come this weekend instead of going OOT.