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Wanting to want
I've been married for a year now and for some reason I really haven't wanted sex lately. It started out great, but my H is pretty big (not to brag) and it often hurts. He always makes sure I'm wet and we have plenty of foreplay. So I'm wondering if the pain is what makes me avoid sex. But also he is turned on so often, he can usually *** again right after sex. I feel as though he is never satisfied. He doesn't pressure me into more sex, I can just tell and we talk about it a lot. I'm so tired of feeling bad when we don't (not b/c of him) and frustrated that it hurts. Please, any advice will help. Thanks 
Re: Wanting to want
Maybe it's just a matter of finding the right position...you said that lubrication is not the issue, but maybe the position is. My husband and I were both newbies, when we got married, and although I wanted to want him... and I wanted him to want me too
my drive was low...until recently.
I always imagined that I would be more satisfied with him on top...but OMG I got on top a few days ago, and that's all that I can think about - when that man comes home, I jump on him immediately - it's all that I can think about - and it doesn't hurt anymore
it feels resplendent!
1.) Have you taken a pregnancy test? Low sex drive could be an indicator that you are KU.
2.) Does your husband masturbate often? I think he could alleviate some of the constant raging testosterone if he were to service himself often.(PS- IMHO its best to use the word ejaculate. The other term is more porno in my mind, but use what makes you comfortable).
3.) Are you completely relaxed, ready for sex? If you haven't achieved the right amount of excitement it will hurt and you will have enough lubrication to make intercourse work. Get some foreplay involved. Do whatever you have to do to get lubricated. I personally bring a vibrator into my foreplay. I make sure I'm good and ready before we get to penetration. Otherwise, it will hurt.
Good luck!
Have you changed BCP? Some birth controls can contribute to low sex drive.
Anything else going on in your relationship? Everything else ok outside the bedroom? Low sex drive can be attributed to so many different things, that it's hard to say, Yes! Do this!
Also, I know it sounds crazy, but talk to your doctor about the pain and see if he/she can recommend better positions, etc, to reduce the discomfort.
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Thanks everyone
I really appreciate it and we've been talking (and trying) your suggestions. Its just really good to know others have gone through it and it will get better. Thank you 