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Wedding gift WWYD
So, two people have told us since the wedding that they have gifts for us, but they haven't materialized. One friend told DH directly it was at his house but not wrapped. The other, a friend who attended the wedding relayed a message to me through a mutual friend he was indeed going to get us something, but nothing yet. (He said he couldn't remember where we were registered, but I felt weird contacting him directly and being like, "here's where you can buy us stuff!", so I just told the mutual friend where we were registered, thinking she'd relay that back. But I'm not sure if she did -- and don't care enough to follow through).
The rest of the thank yous have been written and sent long ago, but I was kind of waiting on these ones. After reading people's posts on the question about to send a thank you to someone who simply attended and did not bring a gift/card, I decided to send a thank you to everyone who came. But I was holding off on these two.
So my question is -- should I just send the card now thanking them for coming to the wedding? I don't really care about the gifts but find it annoying that someone would say, "Hey, I have something for you!" and not follow through.
TIA!
Re: Wedding gift WWYD
I would send a thank you card for attending right now. Who knows how long they'll take or IF they'll actually get to sending one. So do the good etiquette thing and get the thank yous out, according to what you've received (or not!) at this point.
At least that's my take on it.
I have a few people that have done that too! I'm honestly not expecting any gift now at this point, regardless of what they told me!
I would go ahead and send a note saying thank you for coming, can't wait to see you again, and all that jazz.
FWIW, we sent thank you cards to people that didn't give gifts, and apparently that reminded one of my aunts that she forgot to give us the card she got for us. We got that and a check in the mail a couple weeks after I sent out thank you notes, and I called her to say thanks/let her know we got it.
I don't really see the harm in sending them out. You may need to thank them twice, but it's not a big deal to send a note/make a call to say thanks IF a gift materializes eventually.
I agree, I would just send them
We're kind of having that issue. We have two guest who said that they have cards for us. They both had emergencies and had to leave the wedding early. Why they didnt just leave them I have no clue. But they havent called back and we feel kind of ackward, just calling to say, hey do you still have our card we're coming to get it. So we dont really know what to do at this point. Who knows.
If you really have the time and money to send out thanks yous to people for just coming to the wedding, then totally go for. I'm sure they'll appreciate it and possibly remember your gift.
We didn't send "Thanks for coming cards" mostly because I was over writing thank yous.
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This. If you have the time to make everyone a thank you for coming card, do it. My H and I are not doing it, I guess I didn't think about doing it that way.
I agree with B*rad and Schu.
However, if that's what you're doing, I would send the two thank yous now.
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