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I need help from Mom's with a 1 yr old..
The little girl I watch is a little over one and the little boy I watch is 20 months. They've been fighting over toys a lot one wants what the other has. Which results in hitting and pushing and screaming then crying of course. So I've tried to use positive reinforcement. but it's not working.
So this morning it was taken to the next level. G was on the piano and A wanted it so first he pushed her and I moved her to the bouncing horse. Well I left the room for a second and she bit him in the back. I didn't know what to do She broke skin and of course it was bleeding. I've never had this problem before with biting when I was in Daycare I worked in the infant room. PLus I don't remember them teaching or talking about biting when I got my Early Childhood degree.
Have any of you dealt with this yet or if not have you read anything about how to nip it in the butt. Any advice is appreciated from anyone.
UGH and it's only 9am LOL
Re: I need help from Mom's with a 1 yr old..
Sounds like they need more structured play. Engage them in an activity and they will be less likely to act out.
I usually do like arts and crafts once a day for about an hour and then an hour and a half of a game of some sort Usually they fight for toys when I'm feeding collin or getting him to sleep. I guess it's just a stage she might just have to out grow and all I can do it hope it was a one time thing and keep doing what I can. Every child is different I guess
When I worked at a daycare we had similar problems.
Whoever has the toy first gets to use it. Child 2 can have it when child 1 is finished. If you try to take it from little johnny, you won't get a turn with it for the rest of the day. Encourage sharing of the toy, but if that doesn't work it's first come first serve. If there is still fighting over the toy, take it away and tell them it won't be back until tomorrow.
If you hit/bite/violence of any kind, you get time-out. There is no positive reinforcement for hitting/biting/violence/bad behavior. There is a stern talking to about how it is not nice to (insert violent behavior here) and some about how would you like it if he/she did that to you for no reason.
Katie's been bitten twice at daycare (by 2 different kids), and she's around that age, so I think it is an age-related defense/habit. I'm not really sure how they've dealt with it there, because she's been the bite victim not the biter.
The first time she was bitten, the other kid wanted Katie's blanket and she wouldn't give it up, so he chomped her. The second time, she was looking out the window and the other kid wanted her to get out of the way, and she wouldn't so he bit her (this second time happened seconds before I walked in the room to pick her up). Both of the kids who bit her have older siblings so I suspect that it's either a learned behavior or something they do because they are frustrated and don't know how to deal otherwise (much like hitting and tantrums).
As a parent, I kind of expected that she'd get bitten eventually and that maybe she'd even bite another kid (it hasn't happened yet - she's more of a hitter & screamer, LOL). I think biting is an issue that the parents need to address, and if the kids are fighting over the toy maybe neither of them should play with it (I know how hard it is to redirect a single-minded toddler).
Take her my the hand and move her and every time she goes back for a hit you move her again! If a child keeps on you put her in the crib and let her cry it out. I have work with that age and it diffucult but the child gets fustrated from getting moved everytime they hit or bit. If the child bits again they go home thats not safe being around other children. I would have called the parents ASAP from her bitting another child and plus you should warn the parents that if she does it again she or he will go home and that is not exceptable.
I hope all that mades since and a one year is a hard age b/c they really don't understand that bitting hurts and hitting does too. We also told the children it hurts by saying ouch that hurts.