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Is this tacky or am I just weird?
My SIL is getting married in a couple months and we got her invitation today. Now, I like SIL okay... it's just if we weren't related, we wouldn't be friends. And, sometimes she gets under my skin and irritates me. So, I don't know if it's that or if this certain part of the invitation is really tacky:
"Since we have everything we need for our home, we have registered at ourcruiseliner.com. You can donate to our honeymoon or pick things for us to do while we are relaxing on our 8 day cruise!"
It's just... I don't know. Thoughts?
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Re: Is this tacky or am I just weird?
I think honeymoon registries are tacky!!!!!
I'm glad I'm not the only one who gave the side-eye.
It's weird - there are two full sized invitations. One is to the wedding and one is to the reception. This actually is stated on the reception invitation. But, still. It was all together.
Totally agree! If you can't afford a honeymoon don't expect others to help pitch in on the cost!
Okay, here's my two cents:
1. In the wedding invitation = pretty tacky, but it's not uncommon. I usually let it slide.
2. Honeymoon registry = depending on what it is, not tacky at all.
When we got married, we did NOT include our registry information in the invitation. It was almost entirely word of mouth.
However, after some thought, I decided to do a honeymoon registry in addition to a traditional registry. Please note though that our trip was already paid for out of pocket by us, including airfare, food, hotel, park tickets for Disney World, etc. (because that IS tacky--I agree). The honeymoon registry (which was done through Disney) had extra activities on it, such as snorkeling in the aquarium in Epcot, money to purchase photos of us that Disney's photographers took during our trip, snorkeling equipment rental during our cruise, etc. Price points varied anywhere from $5 to $50+ as well. It was nothing we "needed" to take our trip, but just extra fun stuff.
The end result? Every single thing on our honeymoon registry was purchased. People really liked it, and I actually got quite a few positive comments about it. But, like I said, we didn't purchase our trip with it. Just some activities to give us more memories.
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I think it's tacky. In my opinion, the original thought of buying a wedding gift is to celebrate a special occasion and provide a gift to a couple who is just starting out and may not have all the essentials for a house - i.e. bedding, kitchen supplies, etc. When you start asking for all this extra stuff, like vacations, entertainment systems, etc., it just seems like you're getting married just to get stuff. I really have a problem with all the unnecessary gift giving when I could just buy the stuff myself and get exactly what I want.
I feel pretty strongly about this for me and BF, because although we are not engaged, he is pretty adamant about getting registered for all this crap IF we do get married, because he feels it's HIS turn to finally get gifts after years of buying wedding presents for everyone else. I disagree. He and I have everything we could possibly want and more, and I think it's weird for us to get registered when I would rather not have gifts. If people want to buy a gift b/c they feel obligated, I would rather see that money go to charity. I just feel that's the way it should be for couples like us who have everything we need for the home.
I don't think honeymoon registries are tacky, either. Why not give the couple something they really want, especially if they've already got most things that people give as wedding gifts?
I do think that putting it in a wedding invitation is tacky, though.
I may be in the minority here, but I don't think honeymoon registries are any tackier than wedding gift registries, particularly if it's in lieu of a gift registry. Here's my reasoning: instead of asking for material things, they're asking for monetary assistance in creating memories. Most people like to give some type of wedding gift. Since the couple doesn't need anything for their home, a honeymoon registry offers a more personalized gift option than "hey, give us cash!" since the givers can help pick activities.
I do think it's tacky to list a registry on the wedding invite itself, but I don't mind if it's just included in the same mailing. People always have the option of not using the registry, and it makes gift shopping a whole heck of a lot easier for the people who do want to choose something off of it (like me!) since word of mouth doesn't always work.
I was reading one of the Hot Topics at the bottom of the page and someone was getting flamed for a honeymoon registry. Except she deserved it lol because she asked for people to pay off her student loans and make payments on a car. Now that's tacky.
Tacky or....brilliant?
(Just kidding)
I think having it in the invitation is tacky. Gifts are extra and should not be expected.
These type of registries (honeymoon, etc) are becoming more common these days and I think they are okay. More and more people are getting married at a later age these days and don't need things for their house because they already have everything (if not two and three things). I go with it as long as it's not in the invitation; to me that's being greedy and gift hungry.
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