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Lawren
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Going off BC
Hi Darlings. I'm coming out of being MIA and I need your opinions or thoughts.
So last month I was going to go off of my BC and I freaked out a little and made my doctor call me in one more month because I'm a weirdy. So I am going to attempt to come off of it again at the end of this month. We both want kids, it just scared the crap out of me when I actually was like "oh my gosh, I finally might get pregnant." We aren't necessarily "trying" we just aren't going to be preventing it anymore. Everyone keeps telling me it's normal to be nervous and scared, or does that mean I'm not ready yet?
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Re: Going off BC
I bought TCOYF and it was a whole lot to take in. I just need to sit down and at least push through the natural birth control chapters.
hi lawren. sounds like we're in the same place
i went off BC 3 weeks ago. our plan is to just be careful until we are actively TTC (thinking Dec/Jan timeframe). if it happens sooner, great.
i'm scared too, but i'm slowly working myself into it.
maybe you'd feel better if you had a better plan for backup BC until you really are ready. personally, i'm trying out charting as a TTA method. but condoms are another option that will always be there too.
i'm reading TCOYF too and even buying the book at the store made me feel queazy with nerves, lol! it's a big step, but i'm starting to look forward to TTC.
This! We aren't quite ready for TTC but I wanted to start reading this book to be prepared for when we are, but I haven't gotten brave enough to get it yet. I was also thinking I'd actually have time to read it while at the beach next week, but not going to do that with my parents around. They would get way too excited!
I'd more wonder about you if you weren't nervous about it! I think that's more being nervous about what a big deal/life change having a baby is than not being ready. Knowing that it could happen, after years of intentionally preventing it is a weird feeling.
We decided together we were ready for a baby, but we still had thoughts of "what have we gotten ourselves into???" the whole 9 months. Heck, we still do sometimes.
GL!
My brown eyed girl. :-)
I wasn't really nervous going off the pill. It was when we finally got pregnant I was like "Holy crap, we're actually going to have a kid!"
GL!
That sounds pretty normal to me. I went of hormonal BC for various reasons. There were some cycles where we were not really trying and not really avoiding. We have also charted to avoid without any other backup (with the knowledge that the timing would not be great, but it would be okay if we did get pregnant).
My cycles varied in length prior to being on BC, so I figured there was a good chance they would vary after coming off it. I have found charting to be very helpful. I did not chart the first cycle off and it was too stressful for me not knowing where I was in my cycle, if I might be pregnant, etc.
Good luck figuring everything out.
I felt the same way as well. I spent all these years in "fear" of getting pregnant and now, it feels almost counterintuitive to change that.
TCOYF is great (also fertilityfriend.com-same idea but online). I recommended it to my sister and she has felt empowered by it. There is so much in there that we were never taught in health class and even going to doctors about various issues, it looked like the docs really didn't know either.
Charting can be a pain to get used to but it's pretty neat. I had to go off of estrogen based bc because I got blood clots/dvts and then when my Dh deployed back in 08 I went off of everything so i could see what was "normal" for my body so we could TTC when he got home. Come to find out, I'm not normal. My cycles were a little crazy when I went on bc back in college but now, well, lets just say it doesn't appear that I ovulate. We're not ready to TTC again due to a pending deployment but it's helped me be able to speak to my docs intelligently about what's going on.
I'm not saying there could be anything wrong with you but having that knowledge about how your body works is awesome. Heck, you could be like a good friend of mine. The first month they weren't "trying" but not avoiding, she got pregnant.
Hi Lawren!
I think it's normal to be nervous. I am pregnant (and it took me two years of vigorous trying to get here) and I'm STILL scared shiitless, if I were to be completely honest. I didn't want kids until about two years ago, and before that the idea of having a baby made me want to run and hide under a boulder in some remote area of the world.
Having a baby changes EVERYTHING. I think it's one of the most life altering experiences on the planet. You and your DH will never be alone again. I mean, you might be alone if someone watches your child... but emotionally you will never be alone and things will never be the same as they were before having a baby.
Now that I'm pregnant I am ridiculously excited, but I still wake up at 4 a.m. sometimes wondering how the hell I'm going to afford things and whether or not I'll be a good mom and all sorts of anxiety induced questions.
I'm more grateful than I could have ever imagined that I finally have my chance at becoming a mom, but I'm not going to lie... being pregnant scares me a little. There are so many things that could go wrong... and it's not ME I'm worried about... it's the baby. And I think it's normal for people to be scared about something so physically altering as pregnancy.
Anyways, I'm totally rambling. I think the best time to start trying for a baby is when you feel ready. It's ok to be ready AND nervous (like me lol), just as long as you're READY... and I think you'll know when that time hits, because all of the scary stuff will be far overshadowed by all of the good stuff.