June 2010 Weddings
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Hows married life?
I get the question at least once a week. My standard response is, same as not married life, I just have a new last name, another ring, & a husband now.
Im not really finding it any different, no one treats us any differently. Its nice to be able to say my husband & to occasionally play the Im your wife card but other than that everythings basically the same as it was before June 19th.
Do you ever get asked, & how is married life going?
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it's only different in the way people treat us. DH is definitely taking to the "doting husband" role.
and now that it's official we're really talking about financial planning and starting to seriously save for XYZ.
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For sure. We got our financial stuff all figured out so we each know exactly what we have and merged our credit cards, so we have more concrete financial planning together. It's nice.
I think my favorite thing about married life is no longer putting clothes away. H and I made the deal long ago that when we got married and moved in together, I'd wash/fold the laundry (which he hates and I don't mind) and he'd put everything away/hang stuff up (which I hate and he doesn't mind). My life is so much better. And my clothes are a lot less wrinkly.
People ask me this All.The.Friggin.Time. It's been the standard first question of almost everyone I see post wedding. I then stammer for a minute before answering "pretty much the same".
Like you ladies said, the difference is we now have money to save. And my TV's much bigger.
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All the time...I get it all day long @ work - MDs, hospital administrators, nurses - I want to tell them awful or something to shock them but figure some would not take it very well.
Life changed right before the wedding for us - DH let his best friend move it, it has not been a fun, normal newlywed 10 weeks. But we have been discussing merging bank accounts, cell phones, etc. It is pretty much the same otherwise besides I am not wedding planning on every free second.
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I get it all the time too and have pretty much the same answer that it's the same.
The only difference is we've started to kind of combine finances and are trying to save for a downpayment for a new car for me instead of spending all of our extra money on wedding related things.
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I get it alll the time also.
I always say "it's the same, but happier now" or something of the sort. Our finances were merged before we got married, cell phones on the same plan, etc.
The only difference now is closing on a house and about to be homeowners!
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Yup, all the time, esp at work. It really isn't a lot different for us either bc we already lived together.
We merged our finances, paying off a few bills & pinching pennies to save for a house instead of a wedding.
Yes, people do ask me this. Usually I tell people that we'll really feel married once we've moved out of my parents' house and have our own place.
Things haven't changed much, but I dunno, it feels more "official." It's fun talking about stuff in the future now knowing it WILL actually happen. Before, it was still a little hypothetical.
The biggest thing that changed was merging finances. We're saving for a house, so there's been a lot of discussion about how we manage our money -- and it's OUR money now. When we go to the grocery store, I'm like, "Who's paying?" but then I realize it doesn't really matter anymore.
One thing I DID notice -- I was meeting DH out at a bar with a bunch of his work buddies, young and old, and I showed up before DH. Everyone was like, "Where's your husband??" as if I was no longer allowed to go anywhere by myself. Then the older guys all started making cracks about how I was unattended and they should take advantage of it before DH showed up. LOL.
I get asked all the time as well. It's diff for us because we didn't live together, so we were driving 30 mins one-way to see eachother. I love it! I like coming home to him and waking up together. I like being able to watch TV or a movie and then go to "our room" together. We closed on a house together late last yr and got a cell phone plan together. We also had a joint savings in case of house emergencies. So financially I guess we were already joint, but now we are saving for 'life stuff' instead of the honeymoon or wedding.
But now the question is old....
I get asked all time.
We're different than most people because we were in an LDR for most of our relationship. This is our first time living together so we're learning a lot all the time. It's definitely great to be married but it's not always puppies and rainbows either.
I get asked at least 2-3 times a day how married life is. My standard response is that it is the same as non-married life but with better jewelry.
We're starting to move forward with things in life like saving and merging things that we used to do separate and we're getting ready to move across the country which is neat.
We lived together before the wedding and finances were joint so nothing really changed after the wedding.
I found moving in together to be a BIG change. It's definitely not all happy all the time! I hope it goes smoothly for you!
We were in an LDR for a long, long time before getting married (he was in Brazil while I was here in the States), and there was a lot of doubt about if and how we were going to make it work out. We fought a lot when we were apart, and really didn't know what was going to happen. I was in school, then grad school, and the whole immigration issue just made it all seem impossible. So, when we finally got engaged, and started planning the wedding, and working out the immigration details, and then finally signing the marriage certificate and moving in together, there was mounting RELIEF and happiness that it really was going to finally work out and we would be together! It just all feels so real, and definite, and official! No more doubt
All the freaking time. It does get annoying but then I realize that everyone who asked us only asked us once. Now when you multiply that by X amount of people it adds up.
I always say things are the same - fantastic! Lol. Next time I'll throw in the bigger TV though....that's a plan