Is anyone else tired of being asked "so when..."

adrenalin939 · August 2010

"...are the babies coming?!"

We have decided that in an ideal world we would like to wait a year until I have job security, but if we got preggers before then we would be happy as well.

His parents are very antsy to become grandparents (his older brother and wife are having difficulty conceiving after about 2 years of marriage) and I think they want us to get trying! They aren't very good at being subtle about it..

Anyone else in this boat??

lisam1217 · August 2010

Surprisingly, not yet. In fact, I had a lot of comments about babies when I was still only engaged! I'm surprised that I haven't heard any yet now that we are married. We want to wait a few years until we are more settled in work and such and it will be nice to have some time for it to be just us as newly weds before starting to build our family. However, if God gives us an unexpected surprise, I will be just as happy!

Madam A · August 2010

We're in the same boat as you guys... We are planning to start actively trying around our one year anniversary. But if it happens before that, it wouldn't really be a problem.

We haven't been asked too much about this. Although both of our moms are baby crazy... My MIL is less anxious now that my SIL had her baby (in March) but they would be stoked if/when we get pregnant.

magpie1127 · August 2010

Ugghh...not yet, thank goodness. We are still young, renting, and I am currently looking for a job or grad school program. There is no way we are settled enough to try for kids yet. I think our families understand this, though (other than my sister, who wants me to have babies ASAP). It wouldn't be terrible if it happened, but we definitely won't be actively trying until we have a more stable lifestyle and are a little older.

pavingtheroad · August 2010

I am!! Mostly its friends and coworkers asking us. We want to be in a house and more established in our careers before adding more kids to the picture (fi already has a 4 year old daughter from a prev relationship).

l337Jacqui · August 2010

we've been asked a few times already, but we're waiting for a little while until we figure out OUR life plans first haha...we gotta get settled in with our future plans before involving a baby. moving around with an infant would NOT be too much fun (i woudnt think lol). your life literally revolves around them! and once we are settled, we will be ready for that, but not yet!

aljz2010 · August 2010

HAHA, I hate when people ask us about babies. I feel that it is really awkward. I especially don't like when people ask "when do you want to have kids" and before you even reply they say "oh you should wait a long time, kids are a ton of work." I personally think it is a decision that only DH and I can make in terms of what is right for OUR life. We would ideally like to wait somewhere between 2 and 5 years before we have a baby, but if it happened sooner then it was meant to be. I just don't like talking to people about it because if we were to get pregnant sooner I don't want to hear "what happened to waiting" lol.

GracefulMeadow86 · August 2010

yeah people keep asking me left and right about when im going to get pregnant. its seriously awkward IMO cause its like random people saying, hey, when are you going to have sex with your husband??? weirddd.

but i just tell them we're too young and not ready yet and they'll just have to be patient and wait. not that that has stopped them from asking multiple times over or hinting at it or going all baby-ga-ga whenever they see one and saying that im going to have one soon, which is NOT happening. we're nowhere near ready, maybe in 2-3 years, but who knows.

lburkey21 · August 2010

l337Jacqui:
we've been asked a few times already, but we're waiting for a little while until we figure out OUR life plans first haha...we gotta get settled in with our future plans before involving a baby. moving around with an infant would NOT be too much fun (i woudnt think lol). your life literally revolves around them! and once we are settled, we will be ready for that, but not yet!

Exactly this. We haven't really been asked much - in fact we've had a lot of people tell us to wait and just enjoy being married for a while before having kids.

Bridgetkaryn · August 2010

It is funny because we have a 6 month old and people are asking us when we are having number 2... Also, I posted on FB one morning that I was super hungry, which never happens, I am not a breakfast eater... I got more comments and questions if there was a honeymoon baby on the way... CRAZY-NESS!!

We want to have our kids about 3 years apart... so we will be waiting another almost 2 years til we start trying again... well actually trying for the first time ;-)

Mrs.Kohalic17 · August 2010

We're waiting a couple years. I want to finish Nursing school & we want to really enjoy eachother/our marriage before babies come.

His parents are on a totally different page, I vented about it on TK cuz they are driving me crazy with this "we want grandbabies now" crap. They are being waaayyyy too pushy. Sad

Mrs.Kohalic17 · August 2010

We're waiting a couple years. I want to finish Nursing school & we want to really enjoy eachother/our marriage before babies come.

His parents are on a totally different page, I vented about it on TK cuz they are driving me crazy with this "we want grandbabies now" crap. They are being waaayyyy too pushy. Sad

adrenalin939 · August 2010

Glad I'm not alone in both being bothered, and wanting to get our lives settled first. Not to sound selfish, but I really want to enjoy my hubby for a while before we add a baby to the mix!

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