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bisexuality
For those of you who are bisexual but haven't actually been with a woman, what makes you say you are bisexual? I definatly can be aroused by a female, for example a victoria secret model or maxim covergirl, would rather look at many womens bodies than a mans, and occasionally have had a girl crush.. but have never done anything with a girl.
But, I love my husband, love having sex with him, have been in other hetersexual relationships...so I definatly am into guys.
Would this be considered bisexual or just curious?
Re: bisexuality
If you really want to put a label on it, I would say bi-curious. It's possible that if you were to have sex with a woman, you may not like it as much as you think you would. That happens with a lot of fantasies... the fantasy is much more attractive than the reality. The only way to know is to find out.
I'd consider myself about 70% straight, yet I'm much more aroused by imagery of women than that of men, too. I pay more attention to women in print ads and in porn, and women walking down the street or in the grocery store. Women have more attractive lines to their shape than men do. I don't know that that necessarily means you have a lesbian side; maybe you are subconsciously imagining yourself as the woman? I know this is what I do when I focus on the woman in porn.
That said, I agree that you shouldn't stress too much over labels. Female sexuality is very fluid. You like what you like.
I would agree sometimes I am imagining myself as the woman, especially in a porn.
Also, its different because I would never see a hot guy think, Wow, look at those arms..I wish my arms looked like that...but i sometimes see a beautiful woman and think wow, look at her chest..I wish mine looked like that. or legs or abs or whatever.
The crushes I've had I would say are very adolescent, I don't know if that is just because I've never been with a woman and can't really imagine what I would feel like or what....as far as exploring it prolly not an opition.. dh would be fine (ok probably love) if I wanted to watch girl on girl porn or go to a strip club together but that would be as far as that would go. Which is really fine with me, just a curiosity thing and not something I would probably ever need to explore.
Eh, bi-curious. I am bi but I found my mate in a male. I'm good.
If you were single I'd say find out but you seem to have also found a wonderful man so I'd also say your good to go.
There's nothing wrong with a little admiration anyway. Have fun.
I think it is more of a state of mind not personal experience. I am in the opposite position.
Personally I have slept with many women and am now married but I do not consider myself lesbian or bisexual. Don't try to label yourself. Sexuality is so fluid.
I am really glad to see someone else questions this also.
I have never been with a woman but think about it often.
I wonder what it would be like to kiss them and touch. Actually scares me at times wondering if I ever got the chance to be with a women... that I might try it.
I am happy in my marriage and love my husband deeply... and would never want to hurt him. I truly believe this is why I have not tried anything with a woman.
Have you talked to him to find out if he's down with it? It's fine if he's not, but I think a lot of women in your position assume that their BFs/Hs would be appalled by it because the general societal opinion is that it's cheating... when, in fact, a lot of men are aroused by the thought (and potential reality) of their GFs/wives kissing and fondling, or sometimes even sleeping with, other women.
Just a thought... you may want to find out for sure where he's at before you consider yourself eternally deprived. It isn't cheating if everyone's on board...
I have never been with a woman but think about it often....almost every day. I would call myself bisexual because I know that if I hadn't met my husband when I did I would have definitely been with a woman by now. I am basically addicted to the L word and watching that show makes me feel regretful about the fact that I haven't been with a woman.
My DH has said it's completely fine for me to sleep with a woman but I still don't think I ever could because we are married. For me, it's not about fulfilling some straight man's fantasy of two women together - it would be a personal, deep connection I would want to make with someone. There is just something so much more sexy about women than men - but hey, that's just me...