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wills
Ok, this may seem like a weird question, but something I have been thinking a lot about lately.
Do any of you ladies & your new husbands have a will? I have been reading some things how it is really important you have one. I know it seems morbid or pessimistic to be thinking about death considering we all just got married, but you just never know. If we don't get one before kids come into the picture, we will definitely get one once we do have kids.
A month or so ago I read a thread on the TK where a girl was getting married for a second time after her first husband died tragically in a car accident after a few years of marriage. Of course dealing with the death was bad enough, but she said since they didn't have a will, she had to go through so many hoops, legal issues, etc to get things settled.
I know my parents have one which their attorney wrote for them and they just change it as needed. But I have also heard you can write them up yourself (I know you can also buy kits at the store) and just make sure you get them witnessed. Has anyone done this?
Any recommendations? TIA
Re: wills
I have H set up as the beneficiary of anything that's in my name only, and his name is on everything else (and vice versa), so it shouldn't be a problem. We've talked about it and don't see a big reason to draw up a will until we have children.
However, we both have living wills. Being in healthcare, I've seen some pretty awful situations regarding what to do when someone becomes mentally incompetent (coma, dementia, etc.), so we each made sure we have documents naming the other as the durable power of attorney for healthcare and a living will saying what we do or don't want done in the case we're incapable of making our own decisions (for example, do you want to be put on life support if you're in a persistent vegetative state). You can find basic forms online and fill them in and have them notorized if you don't want to have a lawyer do it.
We're definitely getting a will and a living revocable trust. Every married couple needs both! It is a little morbid, but the unexpected happens every day.
ETA: Here's more info about living revocable trusts http://www.investopedia.com/articles/pf/06/revocablelivingtrust.asp
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This exactly. I have seen families reverse their loved ones decisions, or make decisions based upon guilt, grief, etc that the patient never would have wanted. Definitely - this is a MUST!
We are getting the paperwork drawn up now, since my SIL works for a law firm. It is essential with the girls and us having full custody, if something happened to DH, no way do the girls want to go stay with their Mom (chances are the witch does not want them either) so we need to get that done like yesterday. And it is not morbid to think about it - it is being smart.