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"Do you just grow out of making out?"
This was DH's response to my asking him why he isn't interested in making out anymore. We used to be make out crazy when we were dating and early on in our marriage. But, for the past few years it's like I have to force him to make out with me. He only wants a few kisses then straight onto the sex. I need a little foreplay, hello!
So, are you all still big into making out, or was it something you left behind in your teenage years?
Re: "Do you just grow out of making out?"
No, I don't think you grow out of it. My DH & I make out all the time - and he loves it. In fact, he's often the initiator of it. And he's nearly 48.
Sounds like he's in a rut. Maybe you can turn it into a night of role play - tie him up, then kiss him. Tell him you're in charge and tease him. Maybe it'll get both of you worked up.
So tell him you need some foreplay.
And, no, I don't think most people grow out of this.
This. I don't think it's so much a matter of growing out of it as it's a matter of not making time for it anymore.
Was he big on making out when you first got together or was he always like this?
Hey, just out of curiosity, what do you do for a living? I see that you are a network engineer, can you elaborate on that? It seems that the overwhelming majority of your posts are about work stress and long hours getting in the way of life. Just wondering.
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I work w/ computer networks and data centers all day. Its one of those jobs its on call 24/7, sorta have to drop what you do and run. I can't seem to find a work balance and neither can DH. Hence the stress part.
^^ this. DH and I made out a lot while we were dating, but that was before he was in the Navy working 12 hour shifts every day. Now it's hard to make time for sex because we are on opposite schedules! On the rare occasion we both have time off, we make a special effort to be intimate in ways OTHER than sex, and that helps.
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My hubby and I usually make out every now and again .. our last makeout session was actually yesterday! LOL!
Open up to your husband and tell him that you would like to have more foreplay before the whole shabang and that he should listen to your needs. I'm sure he'll listen then. Good luck!
I think I understand where your husband is coming from, as I sort of "grew out of it". I used to love making out, but I no longer have the desire to do it. My husband asked me recently why we never make out anymore, and it honestly seemed like a strange question at first. Apparently he misses it, so now I make the effort some times even though it doesn't do anything for me. Until he brought it up, it never occurred to me that he still had a desire to make out.
For me, it has nothing at all to do with how much time we spend on foreplay or how busy/stressed I am in my life. We do plenty of other things for foreplay that I enjoy. Making out just seems sloppy and it doesn't turn me on at all. Now, if he wants to suck and lick other parts of my body...
BFP on Jan. 18; EDD Oct. 1