July 2010 Weddings
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Poll to kick off our Nestie board
Hi everyone! Trying to get things going here at our new home!
Just wondering how many of you "nested" with your new husbands before the wedding?
If you moved in together recently (just before or after your wedding), how are you dealing with this new change? What do you love about your new lives together? What are you struggling with?
For those of you who lived together for a while before marriage, does anything feel particularly "different" to you? What is your first goal for your married life together?
Re: Poll to kick off our Nestie board
We already lived together before we got married. In fact, we've pretty much lived together for our entire relationship!! Nothing feels particularly different since getting married - life is pretty much the same.
Our first goal is kind of a combo thing. We're currently living with his mom (NOT ideal but is helping us to get to a better financial situation) so our goal is to be moving out and hopefully moving back to Atlanta in the spring/summer. Once we figure out where we're going to be "putting down roots" we'll look into buying a home.
I'm just really looking forward to living someone that is just us. Our own kitchen, our rooms to decorated, etc.
jacqui + erik 7.10.10
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Good idea!!
Let's see... We DID "nest" together before we were married - for about a year and a half. As far as things being different, they really aren't. I'll admit I was nervous when I first moved in about us driving each other crazy but we actually clicked pretty well as roommates and have divided the responsibilites, etc quite well. DH cooks (he is great at it!) and I do most of the housework.
Our current "Nest Goal" is to finish our basement this fall/winter. We are hoping to put a bar/lounge area down there and add a half bathroom.
I'd have to say... it may come as a shock... but we did live together before we got married. I know, i know... haha
No nothing seems different. Everyone asks if it does and how married life is. It's nothing different than before. It's just great knowing I'm spending the rest of my life with this man and I'm so ready for the journey.
AWW Me too!!
We've lived together for the majority of our relationship as well, so almost 6 years. It felt a lot different at first, but now it's kind of settled down. I think our "honeymoon phase" ended too early!
I know this sounds simple and kind of cheesy, but my goal for married life is to stay in love with my husband forever. When our marriage goes through the inevitable lull, I will make a conscious effort to stay in love with him. I believe love IS a choice. I think you can choose to stay in love with someone or to fall out love with someone. I also believe it is a choice to fall in love with someone else when you are married, not something that "just happens."
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DH & I have known each other for 6 years and have been living together for 5. We bought our house 3 years ago, and can't WAIT to move out. I was only 23 when we bought it, so we went with the simple, small house that would do us for 5 years until our mortgage was up for renewal then we would move.
Since then, we had Zoe and she has SO MUCH STUFF! We have seriously out grown this place and would love to move sooner, but we have to figure out the penalties etc.
As for "Married Life" being different, it's not. We're have so many more special memories and love each other that much more, but the day-to-day life is perfectly the same
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We did not live together before we were married, but he was over at my house all the time anyway. He ended up pitching in with groceries because he at e 90% of his meals with me.
It's weird sharing a bed--I'm used to being able to spread out--and it's hard adjusting to his cleanliness priorities, but we've gotten pretty used to each other in the last month.
Our first goal was to find a place to live. He moved into my 1-bedroom and it's been busting at hte seams. We just signed the lease on a 2-bedroom place today and I can't wait to move in and make it both of ours. And we finally get to use our new wedding presents!
Our next goal will probably be to buy a car. Both of ours are getting old. We need to get a better idea of our budget, though, and bulk up the savings before any purchases are made.
I am just so excited to be starting out life with my husband right there by my side. It feels good to know I'll have him there no matter what.
Aw I love everyone's answers! Now I get to answer my own question!
We have lived together for 4 of the 6 years we were together before getting married. However, we always lived with someone else.... his parents, then his brother & his fiance. We are FINALLY moving into our own place next month. I'm excited to finally have a space to call our own. I'm looking forward to having our own kitchen, our own laundry, not having to live around everyone elses' schedules, etc. We've refrained from using any of our wedding presents because we really wanted to have them nice and new for whenever we found a place... so I'm excited to break open those boxes, too!
Nothing really feels incredibly different now that we're married, but something is indefinably different. Maybe it's the little extra sense of security in our relationship, or maybe the excitement we still have about finally being married, I don't know, but it is nice!
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we have sworn to never take each other for granted. i know that can happen after a while, and we dont want it to!
jacqui + erik 7.10.10
**Planning Bio**
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Yikes, I havent been on the knot or the nest for a LONG time, so these message boards are a little different for me. I hope I'm doing this right.
Hubby and I have been living together pretty much from day 3 of our dating relationship. So, no, nothing is really different. I love how he calls me "his wife" as some others mentioned, but thats all that truly different. Our 1st true diffictult situation has been his mother (surprise). Now that we got married, she suddenly became more clingly. I will hopefully post my rant in a couple of days... I can't believe that has already started. However, despite that, we are happy to know that we are legally bound and tend to stare at our rings for a long time!
We are another couple that "nested" for most of our relationship, but we've only had a house for about a year. There really hasn't been much tangibly different since the marriage other than consolidating our bank accounts, and changing my name. DH has been acting more romantic than usual since the wedding, though, which is sweet.
As far as goals, our tangible goals were to get our priorities for home improvements, travel, and other expenses into a list and start budgeting for the big ones. Also getting all our loots organized and the house cleaned after the honeymoon.
I think there are a lot of intangible goals we have, but they are the same as many others...staying so much in love, keep putting an effort into the relationship after marriage, keep working on bettering ourselves, etc.
We also moved intogether and bought a house last november for the 8,000 tax credit which was SOO helpful for the wedding.
I definately feel the honeymoon is over because the house was a disaster when we got home and we are both SO sunburned from the honeymoon we can hardly kiss without hurting each other!!
I hope it gets better when we are settled at least I am going to try!
We did not live together- but had traveled together quite a bit, spent weekends together, and had a few weeks together this year. I moved 5.5 hours away 2 years ago (and we broke up six months later)... and when we got back together last fall, he arranged to work remotely to spend a week a month with me (in addition to almost every weekend). Sharing a bed is strange (not a bad strange!) and both Monday mornings so far we were just excited he wasn't taking me to the airport at 4:45 AM!! Not being apart has been great!
He had a 1 BR condo, which we are living in but trying to sell. I had fun trying to stage the place a little bit yesterday with some of our shower gifts and wedding gifts. My new job is 45 min away w/out traffic.. so we are looking for houses closer to my job. Most of my things are packed up and are almost in storage- and I won't see them again until we have a house! We are looking at houses again tonight- that has been fun for both of us!
I lived with DH six months before the wedding. We also lived together for a little over a year while in college, but moved out when we both got full time jobs in different cities. The time right before the wedding was definitely easier than the first. I am glad we had both experiences before the wedding to ensure that our start as a married couple did not start off with disagreements or uncomfortable.
Nothing feels different at all, which I like. People kept telling me and DH that the other person was going to change and it is going to be nothing like before, so it is a relief that things have been the same thus far.
My first goal for married life is to become more in-sync. I still take some things personally that I could easily let go and vise versa. As far as our home life, my next goal is to get a larger place. I moved into DH's apartment and it still feels like a man cave. I can't wait to be able to decorate! I would decorate his apartment, but he knows I want to move and it doesn't make since to buy things for his place and then a month later have to buy something else because it doesn't fit with the new place.
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